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How Being an ACoA Impacts Our Adult Intimate Relationships

Dr. Tian Dayton | Posted 11.16.2013 | Healthy Living
Dr. Tian Dayton

Learning to use these triggered moments as growth moments can turn what could be a progressive disconnection into a progressive connection and a building of empathy and trust.

It's Never Too Late to Be Who You Might Have Been (Hope for Codependents)

Ross A. Rosenberg | Posted 11.06.2013 | Healthy Living
Ross A. Rosenberg

You know you desperately want to be released from the shackles of self-doubt, self-loathing and fear. You, and only you, can make the determination to walk down a new path in life that will certainly bring you to happiness, serenity and improved self-esteem.

She Drives a Mercedes, He Rides a Harley: Why We Are Attracted to Opposite Personalities

Ross A. Rosenberg | Posted 10.29.2013 | Healthy Living
Ross A. Rosenberg

Psychologically healthier people are attracted to a prospective partner because of their "magnetic" compatibility. Therefore, we must all strive to make our "human magnets" healthier.

Haulin' the Fridge: This Is What Happens When You Try to Fake Love

Cindy Zelman | Posted 08.06.2013 | Gay Voices
Cindy Zelman

I'm sitting in an old truck, hauling a refrigerator -- olive-green, a throwaway from someone's basement, a 30-year-old refrigerator in the back of a 20-year-old truck. I'm sitting next to Jan, who's driving; we've been dating for three months, and already we're moving appliances together.

5 Unconscious Habits That Block Your Inner Peace

Pamela Dussault | Posted 07.09.2013 | Healthy Living
Pamela Dussault

There are many different ways to attain inner peace, tranquility and serenity. Practicing meditation, affirmations and breath work are a few good ones. However, sometimes hidden blockages exist that may prevent you from attaining that inner calm you seek.

Why I'm Grateful For My Narcissist Ex

Pauline Gaines | Posted 07.01.2013 | Divorce
Pauline Gaines

I can honestly say I am grateful for my narcissist ex.

Are You Tired of Taking Care of Everyone But Yourself?

Laura Lee Carter | Posted 05.25.2013 | Healthy Living
Laura Lee Carter

As we age, we may get tired of taking care of everyone else, and never getting our own needs met. Can we learn how to be different? Can we change?

My Husband Spends My Money. We Never Get Ahead.

Steve Rhode | Posted 04.13.2013 | Business
Steve Rhode

Dear Steve, My husband and I have been together for 30 years. We have poor money management skills even though our combined income is about $105K we never seem to have enough money available to pay or living expenses in total each month.

Denial in Addicted Family Systems

Dr. Tian Dayton | Posted 04.07.2013 | Healthy Living
Dr. Tian Dayton

When a family is steeped in denial, the person who is trying to say that "the emperor has no clothes on" is generally viewed negatively by those who are not willing to see what's really going on.

Growing Up With Toxic Stress or Addiction and Its Long-Term Impact

Dr. Tian Dayton | Posted 01.19.2013 | Parents
Dr. Tian Dayton

How we experience the circumstances of our lives often determines whether or not we find them traumatizing. The presence of caring adults who help children to decode the ever-unfolding situations of their worlds is a great protective buffer for the child.

Why I Stayed In Abusive Relationships -- And How I Finally Got Out

Amanda de Cadenet | Posted 10.23.2012 | Women
Amanda de Cadenet

The truth is, there is no one who can give you that self love. It doesn't matter how many people adore you, or how skinny, successful, smart, talented, funny, kind, or compassionate you are. None of it matters if YOU don't see your wonderful self.

WATCH: Emotional Attachment: Good Or Bad? From Dr. Sue Johnson

Posted 08.21.2013 | MarloThomas

Is it bad to be emotionally dependent on your partner? Recently, relationship expert Dr. Sue Johnson visited me on Mondays With Marlo, and we talked a...

Victim or Freedom

Eldon Taylor | Posted 10.17.2012 | Healthy Living
Eldon Taylor

Self-responsible means taking responsibility for everything in your life, even those events or people that do not in any way seem to be your problem or responsibility. Often the people that most antagonize us are the ones we need most to teach us what we want to learn.

Can You Literally Be Love Sick?

David Sack, M.D. | Posted 08.28.2012 | Healthy Living
David Sack, M.D.

Popular culture has done us a great disservice in our understanding of romantic love. From a young age, we watch movies and read books that form the scripts of our adult relationships. But popular culture usually gets it wrong, and ends up confusing love with limerence.

'Twintervention': Debbie And Lisa Live With Debbie's Husband

Posted 06.28.2012 | TV

While other twins were hitting the Internet to point out that not all twins are like the ones featured on "Twintervention" (Wed., 10 p.m. ET on TLC), ...

Is This Love or Emotional Dependency?

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 08.27.2012 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

If you are so attached to someone that you feel you can't live without that person, try learning to give to yourself and others what it is you want from this person. Your job is to become the person to yourself that you want the other person to be.

You Might Be A Love Addict If...

Ethlie Ann Vare | Posted 04.11.2012 | Women
Ethlie Ann Vare

Here are a few telltale signs and symptoms of affection deficit disorder: You might be a love addict if ...

2012 Water Dragon Year: Helping or Interfering?

Lorraine Roe | Posted 03.13.2012 | Healthy Living
Lorraine Roe

Well, here it comes...The Chinese Year of the Water Dragon. When you look up the symbolism of the water dragon it is described as a powerful creature. But it loses power if it jumps into a situation before carefully observing or researching the circumstances.

My Codependant Relationship

JD Roberto | Posted 11.06.2011 | Parents
JD Roberto

I am in a codependent relationship that is headed for heartbreak. My heartbreak, that is. See, this is one of the many things no one ever quite captures when they try to explain how a parent feels about a child.

On Not Having a Romantic Rendezvous in Rome

Lauren Quinn | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Lauren Quinn

We travel in part to be free of ourselves, the roles and responsibilities of home. Travel allows us to escape those self-constructed constraints of Who We Are and What Our Lives Are, and allows us to live more freely in the moment.

Dianne Schuler: When Denial Costs Lives

Dr. Tian Dayton | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Dr. Tian Dayton

Denial is a dangerous thing, it can leave families shattered and broken, make perfectly good lives sail off track and in the case of Dianne Schuler, it can be the direct cause of eight deaths.

New Year's Resolutions For Progressives 2010

W. Hunter Roberts | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
W. Hunter Roberts

A smart young woman asked my friend, Jennifer, "What would happen if you stopped accepting demands or criticisms from anyone not pulling their weight?"

Just Say No: 10 Steps To Better Boundaries

Therese Borchard | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Therese Borchard

Until recently, "no" was a dirty word to me. As a stage-four people-pleaser, my vocabulary was rich with affirmatives: "sure," "okay," "absolutely," "no problem." But my mouth couldn't seem to form the word "no."

Managing Grief Around The Holiday

Dr. Tian Dayton | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Dr. Tian Dayton

The holidays are a time of heightened reality. A time to reaffirm bonds of friendship and family. The general merriment of the season can make what we...

Why Do Some ACOAs Thrive in Spite of the Odds?

Dr. Tian Dayton | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Dr. Tian Dayton

Dealing with the sorts of challenges that living with addiction inevitably poses can challenge kids, to say nothing of leaders of the free world, to develop unusual talents and strengths.