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How to Avoid 8 Common Pre-Wedding Stressors

Natasha Burton | Posted 08.21.2014 | Weddings
Natasha Burton

So many issues -- big and little -- crop up during this special (and stressful) time. To the point that you may find yourself wondering why in the heck you didn't just elope. But, do not fear: Wedding freak-outs happen to the best of us (er, all of us).

Love Is Not the Absence of Fear

Sheryl Paul | Posted 07.19.2014 | Weddings
Sheryl Paul

When we love another deeply, fear will rear its head. Designed to protect the vulnerable heart, fear is the sentry who guards the sacred entrances.

I'm Uncomfortable With Getting Married

Neal Samudre | Posted 07.05.2014 | Weddings
Neal Samudre

It's time to gauge the success of our relationships by how much we've changed for the better, not by how comfortable we are.

The Only Question to Ask When It Comes to Love

Maureen Anderson | Posted 04.16.2014 | Healthy Living
Maureen Anderson

My college boyfriend dropped quite the bombshell after we'd been dating for a few years. "Let's break up for a while," he suggested, "and see if we mi...

Are You Too Close for Sex?

Sheryl Paul | Posted 03.31.2014 | Healthy Living
Sheryl Paul

You can learn to love the one you're with and create a sex life and feeling of love based on closeness instead of distance and mystery. Despite what the popular culture says, it's entirely possible! And entirely wonderful.

More Couples Are Saying 'I Do' To Wedding Insurance

AP | MICHAEL MELIA | Posted 01.25.2014 | Weddings

HARTFORD, Conn. (AP) — Worried about the groom getting cold feet? There's an insurance policy for that. With the cost of the average American weddi...

3 Signs You Should Call Off The Wedding

Posted 12.02.2013 | Divorce

By Scott and Bethany Palmer, The Money Couple for YourTango.com Wedding planning -- and paying -- can be a nightmare. Who pays for this? Who buys t...

How to Relieve Engagement Anxiety

Sheryl Paul | Posted 01.23.2014 | Weddings
Sheryl Paul

Like any process of self-growth and healing, working with the habitual patterns that keep us mired in negative stuck places is a practice.

WATCH: Why I Regret Marrying My Best Friend

Posted 08.13.2013 | Divorce

It's the perfect romantic comedy storyline: a girl falls in love with her best friend, they marry and live happily every after. But what if it doesn't...

When Love Is Longing

Sheryl Paul | Posted 10.10.2013 | Healthy Living
Sheryl Paul

We're wired to equate love with longing, which means that the only time we feel in love and certain is when our partner isn't fully available. We chase. We long. And then we think we're in love.

4 Signs You Have Cold Feet (And How To Cope)

Xochitl Gonzalez | Posted 08.27.2013 | Weddings
Xochitl Gonzalez

Since it's not like you can go on Web MD and search for "Cold Feet Symptoms", I thought I'd run through some questions to ask yourself in hopes that I may help you self-diagnose. Remember, I am not a doctor, just a wedding expert and former bride and wife.

A Watertight Marriage

Sheryl Paul | Posted 08.06.2013 | Weddings
Sheryl Paul

There are no rules or paradigms other than the ones that the two of you create and that work for your marriage. But if you're worried about following temptation, I would suggest creating a watertight marriage, which means not putting yourself in tempting situations.

Engagement Anxiety: When Friendships Fall Apart

Sheryl Paul | Posted 07.07.2013 | Weddings
Sheryl Paul

Weddings, like all transitions, are a weeding out process. At these breaking and renewal points where we're asked to shed what no longer serves us so that we can make room for the new identity and stage of life, we're given the opportunity to see ourselves and everyone we're close to under a microscopic lens.

How To Call Off Your Wedding

Sandy Malone | Posted 06.09.2013 | Weddings
Sandy Malone

He said "will you marry me?" and you said "Yes! Of course I will!" But what the heck do you do, six months later, when you're knee-deep in engagements gifts and RSVPs to your destination wedding and you find yourself not wanting to marry this person after all.

Falling Out of Love

Sheryl Paul | Posted 06.02.2013 | Weddings
Sheryl Paul

Perhaps it's not accurate to use the phrase "falling out of love" as the title of this post. It's more that we fall out of infatuation so that the work of learning about what it really means to be in love can begin.

The 5 Biggest Fears Couples Have Before Marriage

Sheryl Paul | Posted 05.27.2013 | Weddings
Sheryl Paul

If you take a look at the list of the top five marriage fears you'll see that they actually simmer down to one fear: the fear of loss.

The Truth About Sex After Marriage

Sheryl Paul | Posted 08.23.2013 | Weddings
Sheryl Paul

Here's my definition of good sex: two loving people in a loving partnership showing up to express and receive their love through their bodies.

Why Real Love Is Like A Bowl Of Oatmeal

Sheryl Paul | Posted 03.29.2013 | Weddings
Sheryl Paul

Good love is like a bowl of oatmeal.

What No One Tells You About Your Wedding Day

Sheryl Paul | Posted 03.18.2013 | Weddings
Sheryl Paul

We may watch a relationship unfold over several years on a television series, but by the time the couple finally gets married, the conflicts are resolved and the show usually ends. And therein lies the false message.

Getting Engaged? Now Fear This

Sheryl Paul | Posted 02.10.2013 | Women
Sheryl Paul

Since we're not properly educated about love, romance, attraction, and marriage, we often carry a host of erroneous beliefs about the nature of attraction.

Terrified Of Marriage? You're Not Alone

Posted 12.06.2012 | Weddings

By Ashley Seeger for YourTango.com Are you feeling anxious about your upcoming wedding? Sick to your stomach? Having bad dreams? Does the sight of ...

The Scariest Thought You'll Have Before Marriage

Sheryl Paul | Posted 02.02.2013 | Weddings
Sheryl Paul

At the very core of it is the fear of loss, the fear that just when you open your heart to loving this person completely, something tragic will occur that will take him away.

The Thought You NEVER Want To Have Before Your Wedding

Sheryl Paul | Posted 01.12.2013 | Weddings
Sheryl Paul

I asked if the sadness was past or present and he said "present." Then I asked, "Are there any thoughts that are creating this sadness?" To which he responded, "Just the same one; that I'm in not in love with my bride."

What We Learned About Love

Sheryl Paul | Posted 12.01.2012 | Weddings
Sheryl Paul

I used to be surprised by the number of clients who would share stories about the ways in which grade school peers (including siblings) would taunt, tease, and torture them, but now it's one of the first questions I ask when a client presents with the fear of intimacy.

How I Totally Lost My Sh*t After I Got Engaged

Keltie Colleen | Posted 11.30.2012 | Weddings
Keltie Colleen

In that moment something switched inside of me, and I knew that I could never call off our life together. By saying yes, I had made a commitment to loving him.