Ditch the admonitions to play nicely. Life isn't fair and nice is for suckers. Focus on the resume and tell your kid to toddler-up. The sooner your kid understands that reality, the sooner he can start to amass a resume of victories, conquests and other toddler superlatives that will knock the socks off of the college admissions committees.
I think South Africa needs more taxi drivers like Paul, and kids like the ones in Philippi. I think it needs more sociology and international relations majors. Because if you don't know why things are the way they are, it's going to be difficult to push with any impact toward the way they ought to be.