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Coming Out as a Lesbian

Why Lesbian Identity Matters

Mona Shattell | Posted 02.02.2014 | Gay Voices
Mona Shattell

There is a misunderstanding that one way to show one's acceptance of LGBTQ folks is to claim that sexual identity really does not matter.

How My Experience on My Big Fat Revenge Helped Me Realize I'm Gay

Bo Sellers | Posted 10.20.2013 | Gay Voices
Bo Sellers

A couple of weeks after I had finished filming the show, I was talking with a female friend. She was telling me about her day, but I wasn't hearing a word she was saying because I was staring at her quizzically, trying to decipher what I was feeling. Then it hit me: I was sexually attracted to her.

The Places I Have Come Out

J.E. Reich | Posted 12.11.2013 | Gay Voices
J.E. Reich

On the front porch of my mother's house, coiled on a swing. Rosh Hashanah, the Jewish new year. In the spirit of the high holidays, in the spirit of atonement, I confess my predilections to her. These things weren't supposed to happen to her, she says.

On Having Faith, Watching Oprah, and Being Gay

Cassie Premo Steele | Posted 11.19.2013 | Gay Voices
Cassie Premo Steele

On the day after I realized I am a lesbian, I invited over the woman I was in love with (we hadn't been together in any sexual way; we had not even hugged or kissed) so that we could watch Oprah's Super Soul Sunday. The guest was Brené Brown, whose new book was about vulnerability.

Coming Out to Family -- Six of Them, and All Mine

Judy Rickard | Posted 08.19.2013 | Gay Voices
Judy Rickard

I lost Mom to cancer in 1992. Dad lasted more than a decade without her and passed in 2003. I thought I wouldn't come out to family anymore after that, but life has a funny way of shaking you up.

WATCH: After 20 Years Of Marriage, Husband And Wife Both Come Out Of Closet

The Huffington Post | Glennisha Morgan | Posted 05.16.2013 | Gay Voices

In a recent HuffPost Gay Voices blog post, doctor and author Danielle Kaufman wrote about the day when she, still living as a man, learned her wife is...

Is There A Need To Come Out?

Daniel Browne | Posted 03.19.2013 | Gay Voices
Daniel Browne

I often find myself wondering why the hell people have to come out as lesbian, gay or bisexual (LGB). Heterosexual people never come out as straight, so why must we make an announcement?

Jodie Foster Deserves Our Respect, But Not For 'Coming Out'

Wayne Dhesi | Posted 03.17.2013 | Gay Voices
Wayne Dhesi

The reason I respect Foster is because she used her speech to defend her right to protect her and her family's privacy. She hasn't kept quiet specifically about her sexuality all these years; she's simply not comfortable with the idea of laying out her private life in the public domain.

The Coming-Out Speech Act: It's OK, Jodie, Saying 'I'm Gay' Is Optional

Holly R. Cashman | Posted 03.17.2013 | Gay Voices
Holly R. Cashman

"I am gay" or "I am a lesbian" may be the prototypical realization of the coming-out speech act, against which all other coming-out speech acts are judged. However, does this mean that it is not a coming out if the individual does not utter the words "I am gay" or "I am a lesbian"?

Jodie Foster Takes A Stand For Authenticity

Shaun Sperling | Posted 03.17.2013 | Gay Voices
Shaun Sperling

She took a stand for herself and at the same time said what I interpreted as a "f#@% you" to those who think that it was somehow her responsibility to declare her sexual orientation publicly. As she said in her speech, she had been out for years to those who matter and never hid who she is.

Defending Jodie Foster: Give Us A Break! We're 50!

William Dameron | Posted 03.17.2013 | Gay Voices
William Dameron

For the first part of our lives, homosexuality was defined as a mental disorder. We watched AIDS devastate an entire population and listened to "respected" experts denigrate gays. Jodie, I and other late bloomers are slightly damaged, but we're doing the best we can. Give us a break.

Let's Cut Jodie Foster Some Slack

Justin Hernandez | Posted 03.17.2013 | Gay Voices
Justin Hernandez

We assume that public figures should automatically use the platform that comes with their celebrity status. We believe that they owe it to us to utilize their voices for agendas that we might share, and we get disappointed and angry when they don't. It's easy to forget that they are human.

Jodie Foster, You Are A Classy Lady

Peter D. Rosenstein | Posted 03.17.2013 | Gay Voices
Peter D. Rosenstein

Yes, she came out in a bigger way than ever before, but at the same time this was about her, not our community. It was her way of doing it, not ours. The award she accepted was for her career achievements, not for our community.

Jodie Foster And The Queer Line Between Public And Private

Nathaniel Frank | Posted 03.16.2013 | Gay Voices
Nathaniel Frank

What seems to draw many gay people to celebrity culture is the skill that both gays and celebrities must cultivate to navigate between privacy and disclosure under the watchful eye of strangers. And if there's one thing LGBT people should agree on, it's the importance of compassion.

What Jodie Foster Should Have Said

Mark Olmsted | Posted 03.16.2013 | Gay Voices
Mark Olmsted

"I'm proud of my family. I'm not ashamed of any relationship I've ever had, even the mistakes. And if I'd gotten the 'gay' word out of the way, I probably could have helped us get where we are today a little faster. So I am sorry for being late to the party."

Why Jodie Foster's Golden Globes Speech Matters

Leah McElrath | Posted 03.16.2013 | Gay Voices
Leah McElrath

Ms. Foster's speech was one given by a whole, complex human being -- a mother, a co-parent, an ex-wife, a daughter, a caregiver, a middle-aged adult -- not a one-dimensional poster child for any particular community. If people expected that from her, then that's their problem, not hers.

From Silence, Stigma, And Shame: Finding My Voice

Chana Wilson | Posted 09.24.2012 | Gay Voices
Chana Wilson

Fear was releasing from my body as my mother's story echoed on the airwaves from the Pacific to the Sierra foothills. But when it came to my story -- my story, not my mother's -- the silence of my childhood was still deeply embedded in my body.

My 'Coming Out'

Lori Sokol | Posted 09.05.2012 | Gay Voices
Lori Sokol

"Weren't you that uptight student who interviewed me?" Dr. Farley asked me upon completion of my "coming-out" speech a few weeks ago. "Yes," I responded, retelling how much I'd feared that she'd been able to sense the true sexual orientation that I was desperately trying to conceal.

Lying About Being A Lesbian? My Ex-Boyfriend's Response

Jincey Lumpkin | Posted 07.11.2012 | Gay Voices
Jincey Lumpkin

I decided to interview my ex-boyfriend for his perspective on my coming out. We always hear what it's like for the gay person, but there are countless ex-girlfriends, ex-boyfriends, ex-spouses, and ex-lovers who are left reeling from the shock of the lies. This is his side of the story.

Coming Out: She Had To Be Willing To Die Before She Could Live

BJ Gallagher | Posted 06.16.2012 | Gay Voices
BJ Gallagher

I know a number of women -- older women, in particular -- who were married to men when they were younger but partnered up with women later in life. I asked Kristin Katalin to share her personal story.

When You Realize You're a Lesbian

Sasha Lotrian | Posted 03.19.2012 | Gay Voices
Sasha Lotrian

Does knowing you're gay early in life affect what type of lesbian you're going to end up being? Or is a butch a butch and a femme a femme no matter when the proverbial lightbulb goes off that says "Oh, I'm so gay!"?

'My Teacher Is a Lesbian': Coming Out at School

Jody Sokolower | Posted 03.12.2012 | Gay Voices
Jody Sokolower

I certainly don't want to push anyone to come out to their students if that person isn't ready. But I do want to talk about some of the reasons to come out, and to talk about ways to make it less risky.

Jesus Loves Lesbians, Too: The Birth of a Webcomic (PHOTOS)

Maria Burnham | Posted 02.07.2012 | Gay Voices
Maria Burnham

2011-12-08-JesusLovesLesbiansToo1.jpgI wanted to create something that could share my story and my sister's story and be about Jesus but also about foraying into the world of lesbian sex and all its mysteries. And so my webcomic was born.