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Coming Out

The Time My Boss Outed Me

Brad Wheelis | Posted 01.27.2015 | Gay Voices
Brad Wheelis

Embarrassed, humiliated, shocked and even shamed. Those are some of the emotions I felt when my jackass of a boss outed me many years ago. I'm proud to say that I've been out of the closet for several years now, and feel no shame, but it was a long and sometimes painful road.

The Gay Guy's Guide To Coming Out

Rob Smith | Posted 01.26.2015 | Gay Voices
Rob Smith

Tip #1 - don't do it during the holidays!

Of LGBT Youth and Their Parents

Diriye Osman | Posted 01.23.2015 | Gay Voices
Diriye Osman

No one who has ever come out as gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender to their family, particularly their parents, will ever forget that life-altering moment. Sometimes the connective thread will be cut; other times that bond will be deepened, enriched by this new reality.

What Is Even More Powerful Than Coming Out?

David Fleischer | Posted 01.20.2015 | Gay Voices
David Fleischer

It turns out that our willingness to listen as well as talk -- a combination we can call Coming Out 2.0 -- not only affects those who are conflicted about LGBT people or prejudiced against us. It also keeps their hearts and minds changed for a long time.

"Coming Out" in Hollywood.

Harry Cook | Posted 01.16.2015 | Gay Voices
Harry Cook

I've been thinking a lot lately about the choice actors or actresses have when they decide to "come out" publicly. When I did it, I got a lot of people genuinely asking why is it necessary? I'd had discussions often about the fact that straight people needn't "come out" and a personal life is personal, so why bother saying anything.

Learning to Love My Selfie: Confessions of a Supposedly Psychopathic, Narcissistic Gay Man

William Dameron | Posted 01.16.2015 | Gay Voices
William Dameron

I probably post more selfies to social-media accounts than the average male. According to a recent study this would indicate that I may be more inclined toward psychopathic and narcissistic tendencies with a dash of self-objectification thrown in for good measure. I suppose that's fine by me, considering that, not so long ago, I despised the face staring back in the mirror.

WATCH: Teen Twins Both Come Out To Father And Catch The Emotional Moment On Film

The Huffington Post | James Nichols | Posted 01.16.2015 | Gay Voices

YouTube personalities Austin and Aaron Rhodes have had a significant social media following since they began loading clips to their channel nearly six...

How to Respond When Someone Asks You to Stop Flaunting Your Homosexuality Online

Kevin Thornton | Posted 01.12.2015 | Gay Voices
Kevin Thornton

This "stop flaunting it" sentiment really gets my big gay goat. Being gay isn't some weird hobby. It's not a penis fetish. (Don't get me wrong, I'm a fan.) It's who I am. My sexuality runs a thread through every part of my being, just as it does for all people both gay and straight.

A Writer's Guide to Surviving Trauma

Diriye Osman | Posted 01.08.2015 | Healthy Living
Diriye Osman

Whenever readers ask me how I started writing, I find myself stumped, because I know people want their anecdotes edited and perfectly formed. The real...

A Dad Dropped His Son Off on a Date and It Restored My Faith in Humanity

Benjamin O'Keefe | Posted 01.06.2015 | Gay Voices
Benjamin O'Keefe

I held it together in public, but I really wanted to cry at the beautiful moment I had just witnessed. But then it hit me; I had just judged someone. I had assumed that because this man fit a certain stereotype that he was instantly against equality, and there was no way that he could possibly approve of his son's sexuality.

I am Punk Rock

Brad Liberti | Posted 12.29.2014 | Gay Voices
Brad Liberti

Now I truly understand, I am 'counterculture' simply because I live my life on my own terms. I am punk rock because I don't let the opinions of others police my interests.

High School Star Athlete Came Out By Slow Dancing With The Homecoming King

The Huffington Post | Dominique Mosbergen | Posted 12.19.2014 | Teen

“It was something I thought I'd never do -- dance a slow dance with the homecoming king at his high school.” But that’s exactly what one gay ...

Teaching Kids What It Means to Be Transgender: Why Starting Early Is the Way to Go

Chris Edwards | Posted 12.16.2014 | Gay Voices
Chris Edwards

"So Shtine, what's the latest with the book? Any updates?" That was my cue. Calla and Ava knew their "Uncle Shtiny" had quit his job in advertising to write a book but were very curious what it was about. The question was, at ages 11 and 9, were they old enough to know?

10 Things I Need My Ex-Wife To Know After Coming Out As A Gay Man

YourTango | Posted 12.08.2014 | Divorce
YourTango

It took about five years, after coming out and delivering the "I'm gay" blow to our relationship, before I felt like my ex-wife was finally hearing me and that I, in turn, was finally hearing her. I feel fortunate that we got to that space. Most fractured couples do not.

What Should An LGBTQ Person Do During The Holidays?

Joseph LoGiudice | Posted 12.05.2014 | Gay Voices
Joseph LoGiudice

Recently a colleague put me in touch with Orie Givens IV, the host of Queer Minded, to discuss issues that may be encountered by LGBTQ people during the holidays. Here are potential scenarios that could apply to you as an LGBTQ person during the holidays.

Is 'Coming Out' a Western Construct?

Ali Ahmadi | Posted 01.29.2015 | Gay Voices
Ali Ahmadi

Why is Western society so obsessed with pulling people into certain categories? In an era when sexuality is increasingly understood to be a fluid spectrum, why must we assume that any non-oppressive society must have its fair share of "out-of-the-closet" homosexuals?

Thankful for Being Able To Live a Complete Life

Anthony Nicodemo | Posted 01.26.2015 | Gay Voices
Anthony Nicodemo

A few days before the trip, while I began planning dinner reservations, it dawned on me. For the first time my past and present would meet. My new gay friends would be socializing with my longtime straight friends.

Why You Should Care That Tim Cook and Michael Sam Are Gay

Danielle Ariano | Posted 01.26.2015 | Gay Voices
Danielle Ariano

Have you heard the news that Apple CEO Tim Cook is gay? Are you thinking, "OK, was anybody asking?" or perhaps more pointedly, "Who gives a flying f***?"? Then this blog post is for you!

But I'm a Bartender...

Brad Liberti | Posted 01.24.2015 | Gay Voices
Brad Liberti

I spent my 20's making no apologies for my overt sexuality. After all, if straight guys could construct their entire social lives around the hunt for tail, then why couldn't I? Especially since I was so good at it...

"Unfollowed" Into Happiness

Josh Sabarra | Posted 01.22.2015 | Gay Voices
Josh Sabarra

The decision to write an honest and candid memoir about "coming out" and living life authentically should be accompanied by a list of side effects similar to that of the antidepressant Lexapro: confusion, headaches and sleeping problems.

The Film 'Heartland' Tells the Story of Coming of Age and Coming Out in Oklahoma

Jeryl Brunner | Posted 01.20.2015 | Gay Voices
Jeryl Brunner

The film Heartland is not your typical coming out film. It's important that movies start transcending to places where central characters just happen to be gay, it isn't the central theme of the story, it's just a fact.

WATCH: This Story Of Coming Out In A Muslim Family Is Absolutely Beautiful

The Huffington Post | James Nichols | Posted 11.19.2014 | Gay Voices

Coming out is never easy -- but when compounded by cultural expectations, the path to living as one's authentic self can be a tumultuous one. Comed...

My Year Since Coming Out

Harry Cook | Posted 01.18.2015 | Gay Voices
Harry Cook

A year ago I was sitting at home in Australia, debating whether I should post my coming-out video. I had recorded the video in September and had let it collect dust on my desktop for almost two months. I was anxious about what would happen if I revealed this part of myself to the rest of the world. The tape was a reaction to one of the scariest moments of my career.

A Mom's Letter Introducing Her Transgender Daughter

Liz Hanssen | Posted 01.15.2015 | Gay Voices
Liz Hanssen

I am the fortunate parent who lives in awe of her 15-year-old child, whose courage and conviction to live authentically in a largely unfamiliar and often less-than-friendly world is humbling. And as she has grown into herself, so too have those around her.

The Power of a Complex Heritage

Diriye Osman | Posted 01.13.2015 | Gay Voices
Diriye Osman

One of the great markers of maturity is an appreciation for complexity. Although I'm of Somali descent, I did most of my growing up in Nairobi and London. As the years zipped by, the lens of my identity also zoomed out to encompass my sexuality as an out and proud gay man.