The problem is we don't respect ourselves as being worthy of admiration. And even more harmful, we believe refusing a compliment or putting ourselves down makes us seem humble. It doesn't, it only diminishes us.
This Mother's Day, take stock of your own words and actions and take solace in the fact that making small changes can have a great impact on our children's self image, eating habits and long-term health. I can't think of anything more motivating.
As a Professional Matchmaker, one of the things I consistently hear from women is that they wish men would compliment them more. Another thing I hear is that when men do compliment them, they wish the men would think first because many times their compliments really come across as insults.
When was the last time you received a compliment? I like to think that praise is the new politeness. We all need to give and receive more compliments in our lives. Do you take notice when someone offers you praise?
How can you practice seeing more of the positive qualities in others and live out loud by sharing authentically with them? I encourage you to join us in "living out loud" by going out of your way to share five simple positive truths each day.
In a public shout out, it's okay to acknowledge that you've been through a lot together--provided that it's done with the right tone. The key is to convey that in the battle of life, the two of you are on the same side.
It might sound like a lot of work to just give a compliment, and yet if we are coming from a place where we want more meaningful connections with people we might have to challenge some or our "givens" -- this might include complimenting in a completely novel way.
As an elementary school teacher, I have made it my policy for more than a decade to avoid commenting on a student's physical appearance. These comments, even when positive, can be damaging and hurtful to kids.
Gratitude is the only acceptable way to acknowledge someone's kind remarks. Sincere thankfulness won't give off the appearance of pride or vanity. Instead, it shows you acknowledge a person's recognition and appreciation.
One of the rules I try to live by is to pay lots of compliments. I don't mean smarmy false flattery. I mean the real thing. I believe there is at least one occasion EVERY DAY to pay someone a sincere compliment.
The bad news is losing weight won't fix all your problems, and it won't make you love yourself. The good news? You can start loving yourself whenever you want, no matter what your scale says. Why not start today?