Out-dated and erroneous beliefs such as "condoms are one-size-fits-all" and "all condoms are created equal" have gone unchallenged for far too long. It's time to bust those widespread condom myths once and for all.
Lesley was my closest friend to become sick in the 1980s, and he fought bravely until his death from AIDS. I will not dig up Lesley's body and beat young gay men with his corpse. Lesley did not perish so that I could use him as a scare tactic. He wasn't a cautionary tale. He wasn't a martyr.
Men (and women too) have complained for centuries that condom use interferes with the pleasure of sex, and the Gates challenge could surely generate some new condom designs. But there's no need to wait for pleasure-focused condom use.
It doesn't take a genius to point out that we, collectively, are in a lot of danger. Especially when you begin counting the number of sexual partners we've each had individually... Oh, and then multiply it with the partners our partners have had.
I suggest an alternative: Shift the responsibility for safe sex to the individual. Gay health organizations need to redirect their efforts from stuffing condom packets into teaching responsibility, safety and fun.
By showing support for negative guys, I am clearly demeaning HIV-positive men. But wait! I'm HIV-positive myself, so that must mean I'm being sarcastic in my support of negative guys, because there's so little room for sincerity and goodwill in the chasm between us.
When we have new generations who didn't watch their friends die horrific deaths from AIDS now dismissing condom use as "political correctness," and serious writers claiming that "hedonism" is what drives reckless sexual behavior, it's time for a reality check.
Pride Month is about to begin. But as we commence the celebration of lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) culture and equal rights, we find ourselves confronted by a spate of horrible crimes.