It was exhausting to have my confidence constantly riding on how well I "performed" in life. And the nastiest part of this false confidence? It keeps you addicted to others' approval, like a drug. Every hit of attention from others brings a sweet rush, but sadly takes you further away from learning to be yourself and live your own ideals.
What makes a confident woman doubt herself? An independent, self-sufficient hard working woman feel as though she's not enough? The answer is simply men, or I should say lost men. This is know man hating article, but rather an honest view of many who make successful women crumble for no purpose beyond an ego boost. And why is that?
Two really strange things happened to me after I had a baby. First, I left behind a life of obsessive compulsive dieting and exercise that I so fiercely maintained for 20+ years. Second, I found no desire to kill myself over the last ten pounds my body decided it was going to hold on to (this normally would have put me over the edge).
We live in a very noisy world with millions of people demanding attention. If we have a product or service that we really believe in and we want to share it with others, we have to compete with all of that crazy noise. Sometimes it can feel so overwhelming or intimidating to promote our work. We have to constantly post, pitch, and praise ourselves until others catch on.