And while you may find comfort in the moment, the spiraling effect of this negativity and self-pity will result in a lens through which you start to view everything around you. Now imagine an alternative mindset and action plan that you commit to embracing that propels you forward and positions you as an example for others to follow.
If you have ever struggled with public speaking, have ever had a bad experience, or just want to find your voice and shine as a speaker, it is possible. There are simple, proven things you can do, that I have learnt through more than 20 years of speaking to audiences from small and intimate to those in the thousands, to help you shine.
When I was younger the search for this mythical creature was tedious, comical, painful, bemusing, exhausting, frustrating, confusing and disconcerting. Now that I'm in my late 50s and look back on the guys I kicked to the curb as well as the ones I let get away, I feel mostly empowered. And this is why.
I want to take that young woman, the younger self who was so eager to be liked that she lost a part of herself, gently by the hand and tell her that pleasing yourself first is so much more important than pleasing others. You place so little value on your own being when you live to please others. And you lose a very precious thing in the bargain; your voice and the right to an opinion.