At big holiday meals, I will often print these questions and put one under each person's plate. Varying the questions -- instead of having everyone answer the same question -- tends to keep folks more engaged. A printable copy of this list is here.
It goes without saying that no two people grieve in the same way. Everyone's needs are different at a time of loss, as are everyone's emotions. But in giving voice to one's own grief, others who have not been given the chance to express themselves can likewise find their voice.
One afternoon a nine-year-old spent a great afternoon playing outside on a warm Saturday in November. He came inside after several hours grimy, hungry, and exhausted and his devoted mother fed him and gave him a bubble bath that he loved. I know this mother well and she shared what soon ensued.
In our society there are so many people wanting to be heard, yet so many missed opportunities for connection. Listening is an underestimated skill that is vital for health and healing. Practice being a listener and you'll soon discover the power listening has.
This blog is about the Business Case for Conversation. In it, I will share not only my journey as an organization and leadership development expert seeing the challenges the business community is facing, but also an analysis of what companies can do to address them.
Take a moment to look around the next time you're in a meeting, at a social event, waiting in line or walking down the street. You'll likely find yourself surrounded by people staring at a smartphone or other digital device. Chances are you'll join them. What's going on here?
We live in a relatively disconnected world. Fortunately, that is mostly by choice. The fact is, we don't need to wait for an International Day of Connection or a global eye gazing experiment to choose differently. We can just do it. And that, my friends, is beautiful.
Only our internal experience and our emotions can truly guide us towards the answers to the big questions. But emotions get a bad wrap! We all know we have them. Yet, somehow, us humans get caught in a struggle to control or get rid of them.
A healthy, reciprocal relationship requires a healthy you. By dating with eyes wide open, you are being given the perfect space to practice honoring yourself each and every time an opportunity arises. This is how we cultivate self-worth and this is how we attract our ideal mate!
The in-betweens in life often appear as momentary windows of time and if we're not careful, we'll see them as insignificant experiences. However, these experiences add up to an important part of our lives and can ultimately define our existence.
When we trust the truth of our own love, the truth of our partner's love, and that we are worthy and deserving of that love, the doubts and fears dissolve and disappear. And it just doesn't get much better than that.
To acknowledge imperfections, some of us have to confront our idealized image, a narcissistic view of the self that dictates we must be perfect. In this case, a mistake and the need to apologize, can be experienced as like a blemish that needs to be hidden.
It's not that you won't ever get around to mending them; it's just when you see the inside-out nature of our experience, it makes no sense to take yourself out of connection with your partner in order to fix an issue that only seems important when the connection is absent.
"There's just something about her." You just hear that about certain people. They have that special "something." It's not tangible, but you can definitely feel it. You feel naturally drawn to them. Like a magnet. You're not sure why, but you feel an invisible pull drawing you to come closer.