The truth is, I said what I felt and believed in. I actually said what rings true to our own family's experience. If I said the right thing or not, I may never know, though I am absolutely sure I'll ask him fifteen years from now if he can quote me on this, and if he still believes in happy endings.
The next time you want to give a shout out to a divorced mom, offer support, or reassure her everything is going to be alright - simply do this: Be social. The simplest, most sure-fire thing to do is not offer her the thoughts above, but just ask her if she'd like to go for cocktails or coffee - and chat about anything else.
Divorce may be particularly difficult for only children. This is true for children without any siblings as well as virtual only children, those who are separated by seven or more years from their closest sibling. Children with special-needs siblings can also feel like only children, particularly if the sibling is unable to engage interpersonally.
To somehow yoke the term parenting with the concept of an obstacle course of terrors seems somewhat frightening, and honestly an unlikely partnership of sorts. And yet, ironically, this description actually comes close to describing the profound mystery of parenting Americans are faced almost every day.
While there is often a lot of discussion about how difficult single parenthood can be, it seems we often focus on the logistics--how to take care of everyone and still have a social life, how to be a good parent and develop a career at the same time, how to budget as a single parent. But there is an emotional burden that is often overlooked.