Mostly we all parent by the seat of our pants, don't we? I know I sure do. We're so busy catching up, just checking off the to-do list (or more likely, not checking off the to-do list and just stealthily bumping the task to the next day then the next then the next...), there's not always time to reflect.
For anyone who has suffered a loss, you know that no amount of nice words can heal the sense of grief you experience every day. As I began to grieve, I noticed something very familiar arise in how I related to this process: My grieving patterns mimicked patterns often perceived as obstacles to meditation.