I remember looking in the mirror with the same quiet discontentment, like I didn't measure up. Girls who look at themselves that way tend to limit themselves. I didn't want any girl of mine growing up with a poor self-image.
It was the year of the winged bangs and I was hell-bent on having them. Despite being born with a headful of ringlet curls and living in an oppressively humid climate, I wanted to belong. I was 14, it was the '70s, and a world of adolescent males awaited me. That is, if I could tame my damn hair.
What if she came to me crying and wishing she was born with straight hair. How would I be able to look her in the eye and tell her she is beautiful the way she is while wearing someone else's hair?
"I've worn my curls short(ish), long, highlighted and natural. I've tried gels, mousses, serums and creams."
"My hair was fried, dyed and generally unhealthy after I graduated high school."
Apparently, I'm still growing. Thankfully, some of the crucial insights of adulthood have stuck. But despite my completely idealistic youthful beliefs that I would one day feel entirely grown up, there are still a few things I'm waiting to either let go of or outgrow.
"When I was dissatisfied with myself in any capacity, I would take it out on my hair because it was the easiest target."
"Let's just pretend I'm going for the 'fiery redhead' thing and call it a day."
"I was constantly in pursuit of silky, shiny, blows-in-the-wind, 'white girl' hair."
I had been going to the same salon for 10 years and needed a change, so I made an appointment with the curly hair expert.
It can take ages to choose and refine a hairstyle that suits your face shape, taste and wardrobe, and the mere thought of altering it may cause you to break out in hives. But there are many reasons to consider reevaluating your 'do on a fairly regular basis.
The very idea of suppressing the beautiful, intrinsic locks is now a ritual of the past. Today, the trend is to acclimate with the so-called "worrisome curls."
From Hair to Toe, look for soft rich hair color, caramelized creamy blondes, chocolate brunettes and berry reds. And the very important newest hair trend: Curls!
Hair should looked controlled but never done. This might seem to be an impossible challenge in the heat and humidity, but the solution is simple: Styles that incorporate the natural texture of your hair work best.
After having worn my hair straight so long, I discovered in my 30s that it was no longer curly but part wavy and even part straight. The inconsistency was apparent to all when I showcased what I thought would be my "curly look."
The perm fiasco of sixth grade may have been earth shattering to my ego, but it did nothing to quell my desire for curly hair -- I wanted those lustrous waves more than ever.