At some point, your child may identify with one race over another. This may not be yours and you may feel hurt. Biracial children build healthy self-concepts when they are taught that they are both, not 50/50.
Put that brush down! Each time you run a brush through your hair, you destroy the curls.
My hair has also taught me some important things in a bigger picture. In a world of straight-laced people who go from point A to point B, my hair takes the road less traveled. No matter if it needs to defy gravity to accomplish the feat, it will not give up or take the easy way.
Curly hair and rain are about as compatible as fire and ice. Sure, there are plenty of products that claim to shield hair from every trace of humidity, but show me one of these alleged "game changers," and I'll show you some unhappy, frizzy testers. Being a curly-haired girl myself, I feel your pain. So I talked to a few experts and tested their advice on this rainy week.
I have to acknowledge that my mixed Afro-Latina heritage has given me both a lighter complexion and a looser curl pattern than most Black women. These factors alone grant me privileges in the workplace, privileges that must be acknowledged in order to have an honest conversation.
As I was brushing my two-year-old daughter's hair recently, it became very clear to me: I have major hair envy. Her long, soft locks float down her back, swinging back and forth while she walks.
She likes her freckles, counting them and eagerly searching for more with me at the end of one of those long summer days. When she does this, I can't help but think of all of the time and agony I could have saved if only I counted the freckles instead of trying to scrub them away.
I am a proud, big-haired girl. In photos, my head is usually double the size of anyone else's. Us curly-haired girls have some secrets (at least I do) that may surprise you when it comes to our hair care regimen.
The problem with curly hair in the media is that it's usually a "before" look -- before the main character becomes pretty, confident and self-actualized. Think Julia Roberts in Pretty Woman or Anne Hathaway in The Princess Diaries.
The movement often fails to challenge the very paradigm that encouraged women to chemically process their hair and thereby prevented them from remaining natural, in the first place.
I see oodles of products promising weightless, frizz free curls with bounce, movement and volume. Sounds fantastic for my natural girls, but I see very few companies directing their messages to women with relaxed hair.
Many times I wonder if people see my hair instead of me. If my hair disappeared, would I go along with it? My curls are part of me, but they shouldn't define me, either.
The trend of integration in the natural hair movement may contribute to the erasure of kinky hair textures in the media.
Let's be honest, many people view dreadlocks as "dreadful". I sincerely hope that change is on the horizon. Niyya Tenee, the founder of Locs Revolution, is on a mission to uplift the image of locked hair and as part of that mission she is promoting Loc Appreciation Day on June 28, 2014.
With a big chop, you become a woman with short hair in a world where so much sexuality and femininity lies in length.
From now on, I'm embracing my hair. And you, my curly-haired sisters, should too. Here are 12 reasons having curly hair rocks.