I think I genuinely lasted an entire week without logging on to any of the sites. But one night, I'd had a crappy day at work and couldn't sleep. I lay in bed, thoughts racing through my head. Just a little Tinder wouldn't hurt. My phone beckoned -- no implored -- me to pick it up and swipe. So I did.
Our modern world still conforms to an archaic double standard when it comes to the assumptions surrounding a woman who's single. When a high-value man is single he's viewed as "playing the field" or hasn't met the "right woman." When a high-value woman is single it's assumed to mean that men don't want her (for good reason.)
A friend and I used to laugh that the men we were looking for were really women's personalities in men's bodies. Back then, I didn't know how true our little joke was. You see, when women go out into the dating world, they are looking for a handsome man who will be their best friend.
As I evaluated the No Cheaters, No Beaters and No Drunks Rules it because clear that every bad relationship began with me allowing one of these three types of men into my life.
Some guys show their interest more readily than others, and you can be left wondering how the date really went. His body language can communicate his interest without him realizing it, so use these cues to help decipher your date.
Your opinion is valuable, your advice even more precious. So, save it. Keep it for yourself. Odds are, you need it more than I do. So, please don't give that sh*t away, certainly not without even being asked, lest you be perceived as promiscuous.
I'd talk to guys for weeks without either of us initiating any hangout. We were virtual pen pals, wasting one another's time with random texts at odd hours.
A little while ago, I offered unsolicited advice for men over 50 about dating. This came mostly from what women had told me about their dates. Though many of them had positive observations, a lot of what they had to say dealt with their male companions being self-centered, boring, arrogant, duplicitous, needy and/or unwilling to commit (sometimes, impossible as it sounds, at the same time).
There's a strange phenomenon that can occur when talking to someone we might be romantically interested in, versus conversing with almost anyone else -- friends, coworkers, clerks, servers: Alien life-forms take over our mouths. We clam up. Or we say inane things.
Especially if you're shy or tend to be anxious, those first date jitters can translate into full blown dating anxiety, which can be paralyzing. The days and hours leading up to a date can be worry-filled, and you may even avoid dating altogether if it's too intense.
If you want to avoid that awkward did-he-just-touch-my butt-moment, here are some subtle body language tips you can use in bars to thwart unwanted advances.
Here are three oversights that are killing your dating life, especially if you are 50 or older, and what you can do to bring it back from the dead.
So you're a single midlife woman and you care about sex? Then say so in your online dating profile. And no, I'm not just talking about women who are looking for casual fun, although that's a perfectly acceptable choice. I'm talking about any sexually charged woman who believes that good sex is a vital component of a romantic relationship and doesn't want to settle for anything less.
Can't muster up the energy to check your online account? Read the text message from your date last night and rolled your eyes? Posted a rant on the woes of the opposite sex on your FB page? You might be suffering from dating burnout.
The message is one of hope. Social anxiety can be debilitating, isolating and lonely. But it doesn't have to be that way. With treatment, practice and a willingness to try new behaviors, dating anxiety can be overcome.
I've had my heart broken a bunch of times. To be fair, I'm sure I've bruised a few hearts as well. Love can be confusing, and it's hard to know if what you're feeling is really real.