Conflicts are an unpreventable part of any relationship, but how you deal with those conflicts can make or break the healthiness of your partnership. In order to resolve your dispute, no matter how big or small it is, follow these steps...
While there's a certain romance in the idea that each person has a single ideal soulmate out there just waiting to be found, I don't think that's accurate. A more realistic approach is to understand that there are five, or 50, or 500 really good fits out there -- not perfect, mind you, but really good -- and you only need to find one of them.
The need to control an undesirable situation by pushing or pulling a partner into compliance is the root of all torment. All we can do is improve ourselves. We can't coerce others or make them want us. But we can show up in a way that allows us to shine, no matter what the outcome.
I've noticed that a side effect of dating in midlife, particularly post-kids, far too often involves shining a flashlight on all of my perceived personality deficits and physical flaws.
There's a strange phenomenon that can occur when talking to someone we might be romantically interested in, versus conversing with almost anyone else -- friends, coworkers, clerks, servers: Alien life-forms take over our mouths. We clam up. Or we say inane things.
We don't give relationships enough credit in this world. As a result, people suffer and tolerate mediocre relationships, feeling drained and exhausted as a result, sometimes without even realizing how much better things could be if things were different in the love department.
You can't instantly walk into a successful long-term relationship, but you can nurture one into existence. If you're trying to turn a good short-term relationship into a great long-term relationship, you'll need to put in effort to make it work.
It's OK to want more. It's OK to expect certain things. It's OK to want to wait for the right person. Being "nice" does not equate to being weak, passive, or without a personality.
As night falls and darkness rolls in, I picture you sitting there, knuckles white as a ghost as you clasp your cold phone, laughing hysterically with your girlfriends. Laughing because I said too much, or maybe too little, or took too long.
One size doesn't fit all. A woman attracts a man based on who she is as an individual, not just by her looks, body and charm.
If you say you're going to call, call. We have lives too, but if you tell us you'll call us, chances are we're excited about that. When you don't end up calling it either shows that you're flaky or you simply don't care.
It's great to love New York, but it's OK to leave it, too. It's OK to admit that despite offering you everything you think you could want only a block away 24/7, other places might have what you really want. Get out and experience those other places.
Do love, treasure, nurture, respect and be kind to your body and who you share it with. The more your love and respect your body, the more men will as well.
I'm officially adding the phone call as a precursor to every in-person date. I'd rather not go on anymore text-only dates. I want to hear them and imagine them saying wonderful things.
No one can ever really know what's in another person's heart or brain, and everyone, single or married, is at risk of being devastated by love. It can happen to anyone at any time. If you can remove the self-blame, then you can start to be curious about what's developing between the two of you rather than be worried about it.
You see an attractive man and you'd like to get him to notice you. But what do you do? Men need encouragement to know it's safe to approach you because more often than not, they get rejected by women. Here are five tips certain to let him know you're interested in him.