To be fair, "just being yourself" is actually something that works really well -- but for someone who's struggling with it, just telling them to do it won't help.
Based upon my own journey through divorce, book research and work as a therapist, I say with certainty that those who are separated often crave validation and companionship to stave off loneliness. They often desire affection -- especially after cold marriages without it -- and sometimes, they desire just that: desire.
Like many strong, independent women, I was committed to not losing myself in a relationship. I watched my mom within my parents' relationship and I translated that she had lost herself and her freedom. I realize now that she's a women strong enough to let someone take care of her.
Feeling secure when it comes to dating after divorce is easier said than done, especially when it has been a while. Many women struggle with their confidence. The bottom line, however, is when you feel confident, you attract love in your life. Here are some dos and don'ts for attracting a man so you can be on your way to feeling "dating confident."
Telling the world you are HIV positive can't be easy. Especially if you're Charlie Sheen. That's why it wasn't surprising to me that Sheen seemed extremely nervous during his interview a couple days ago with Matt Lauer on Today.
It might take a life-shattering illness nipping at the life you have built for yourself. But once you realize you are in a desperate relationship, it's time to get real with yourself and your goals for the future. Because one fact about desperate relationships endures: They don't.
Life would be so much easier if we could have a one-size-fits-all answer to loaded questions. And this is one! Why? Because it triggers all kinds of other questions you should also be asking yourself. Here are four key questions to ask as your new romance unfolds during the holiday season:
Truth is, we'd be lying were we to say that the proximity of a prospective date does not play a substantial role in deciding if someone is worth dating.
A reader emailed me with the question, "What's the best way to get over falling in love with someone you met via online dating that you've actually never met in person?" Although I appreciate that the reader thinks she has a broken heart, I had to answer this way...
Dating isn't a game, there shouldn't be rules, and the longer you stay a player the longer you just get stuck playing a video game.
As I stood at the boarding terminal waiting for the train admiring Korea's countryside with tears rolling down my cheeks, I knew in my head that it was over but in my heart I didn't want to let it go. I wanted a resolution. I wanted to feel like there was some kind of actual "closure."
Conduct an in-depth probe of your personality, attitude, and behavior. There may be ways you need to change. For most, an honest self-evaluation will reveal the problem, but some people will struggle to recognize how they sabotage their success with potential dates.
That's right, the sound bites rolling off the candidates' tongues reminded me of that great American invention, speed dating, which enables lucky men and women to go out on a dozen dates in a single evening.
I hung out with a couple of people but there was no one serious in my life until I was 28. I met a guy who made me consider dating him exclusively. The problem was I was out practice and I was getting sicker, it seemed like, every month.
We all want others to like us. Deep down in our hearts we all want to feel supported, respected, and, most importantly, loved.
Is there a divorced person on planet Earth who actually enjoys first dates? Does anyone really look forward to meeting a complete stranger for coffee or drinks?