Why was I always the only one who really tried to work things out? Why was I always the one putting work and effort into relationship issues, but the guy rarely reciprocated?
According to the older men, one key to a long marriage can be summed up as "give your partner's interests a try." Among unhappy couples and divorced elders, resentment of a spouse's independent interests shone through. The partner's passion for an activity was seen as a threat to the relationship.
This guy contacted me through an online dating site. His profile was well written, and he seemed to have his act together. He seemed normal. He was an attorney, new to town and looking to meet new people. He was 45 years old and nice looking according to his profile photo. All signs pointed to responding.
Cynical people are romantics who allowed themselves to be hurt too much. And the world needs people who are soft and open, not cold and hard. Be gentle with yourself. You're the only you we get.
A first date is pretty much a sexualized job interview. You spend a ton of time getting dressed, carefully considering what each article of clothing you choose might say about you.
Having a purpose gives you something to bring to the table which shows maturity, responsibility, commitment and a desire to make a difference. Being interesting and self-sufficient is extremely attractive.
A new relationship -- whether personal or professional -- is a lot like buying a new car. Driving it off the lot is pure bliss. And like a car, when a relationship breaks down, it's overwhelming.
The flaky pastry really is just too good to swear off for someone who couldn't appreciate it.
Practice this micro-meditation as many times as you wish, and just watch as your reservoir of love deepens and widens, day after day. The chances are great that it will, and that your life will become richer and more enjoyable, and you'll start meeting new people who also love you for who you are.
Online dating can be fun or it can be hell. You start talking to someone who seems normal (fun) and begin to think something great could happen. And then a Big Red Flag rears its ugly head (hell) and you plummet, resigned to another bad experience, another rejection, another "why me?" moment.
The premise here is we women know precisely what traits we like in men, even if men are the last ones to figure this out. Hint: there are actually ten things we love, not just seven.
Recently I have been seeing some absolutely crazy things happening on Facebook. I don't know about you, but I believe that there has to be a line between what is appropriate to post on Facebook and what is just absolutely nutty.
With all of the monumental heartache, building insecurities and irreparable damage that presents itself after such said rejection, there are still certain instances when you should welcome it -- actually, you should count your lucky stars that you dodged this destructive bullet and the Gods above threw you a bone.
How many hours have you spent looking at men online thinking the following thought? This man looks nice but ... he's not my type!
You will find your dreamboat when he or she sails into your harbor on any given day. Just don't become single-focused. Travel. Love. Make friends. Pursue your dreams. Enjoy yourself. And I promise love will come into your life.
It's going to take a little while, but eventually, your heart is going to start beating again. And when it does, it's going to be a stronger, healthier, bigger version of itself. You're going to realize why love hasn't worked in the past -- and you'll be open to a love that matches this new heart of yours.