Sure, challenges are great for learning and personal growth, but what if you're trying to create in the moment and you haven't had time to process what you're going through? What if it's just too damn heavy to deal with creatively? That's what I've been grappling with.
While you are in crisis, you are forced to function outside of your normal comfort zone. The sheer nature of a crisis or struggle creates a certain amount of present moment awareness, which is where the solutions live.
The reason the Seven Steps to Recovery works is that in essence it reconnects the thinking, feeling and acting parts of your personality. More than that, it enables you to adapt to the reality of what is, as opposed what no longer is.
While it is tempting to perseverate with questions of "why" and "unfairness," this tendency can delay you from saving what still has life. We must not tarry in our heads when there is ground to clear, rescues to handle.
A nurse told me often that an illness can be harder on the caregiver than it is on the patient, and that caregivers often experience serious ailments during the first couple years of this stressful period.