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Dealing With Grief

Keeping Memories Alive Through Candid Conversation

Meryl Ain, Ed.D. | Posted 04.30.2014 | TED Weekends
Meryl Ain, Ed.D.

2013-01-18-TEDplayvideo.jpgComing out of my closet enabled me to honestly share my grief journey with others and to gain inspiration from their experiences. And I gained a new perspective on life and death.

My Daddy Forever

Amy Lord | Posted 04.26.2014 | Parents
Amy Lord

I wasn't ready to surrender my daily call(s) to my dad. I needed to fill him in on Jamie's latest audition and kvell about Hallie's good grades.

Grief and Healing: Will I Ever Recover?

Megan Devine | Posted 04.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Megan Devine

For me, any outside source or force asking me when I'll get better is going to be met with irritation. But if I do the asking, if I wonder -- myself -- what healing or recovery might look like, then it becomes a very different question.

The Long Winter of Grief

Fredda Wasserman | Posted 04.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Fredda Wasserman

The process of grief is sometimes likened to a cold, dark period of gloom. It affects us physically, psychologically, behaviorally and spiritually.

A Reprieve From Grieving the Death of My Husband

Jamie Greenebaum | Posted 04.23.2014 | Fifty
Jamie Greenebaum

It was like my memory only went back two and a half years, to the hospital room after Rob's original surgery, waiting for him to wake up. That is my image. With amnesia for any life of my own before that moment. And now the memories are coming back. Filling the blank spaces in me.

9 Things Not To Say To A Bereaved Parent

Suzanne Leigh | Posted 04.23.2014 | Parents
Suzanne Leigh

You know better than to say something like, "He/she is in a better place" or "You're lucky you have other children," don't you? Here's a list of other well-meaning blunders reported by bereaved parents that have made us squirm.

Remembering My Mom: The Living Memories Project

Meryl Ain, Ed.D. | Posted 04.09.2014 | Healthy Living
Meryl Ain, Ed.D.

My mother was essentially a cheerful, optimistic person. When I was bored, sad or depressed, she would say: "Get yourself a project." So I decided my project would be to interview people about how they keep alive the memories of their loved ones.

I Do Not Need Fixing. I'm Just Grieving the Death of My Husband.

Jamie Greenebaum | Posted 04.03.2014 | Fifty
Jamie Greenebaum

I painted her a picture of my current situation. An abridged version of my husband's two-year battle with cancer and his death four months ago.

6 Surprising Realizations A Year After The Death Of My Daughter

Suzanne Leigh | Posted 03.31.2014 | Parents
Suzanne Leigh

If losing a beloved child is a reminder that we live in a brutal world, the outpouring of goodwill is another reminder that kind people live among us.

Freedom Is Not All It's Cracked Up To Be Now That I'm A Widow

Jamie Greenebaum | Posted 03.31.2014 | Fifty
Jamie Greenebaum

This past weekend was jam packed, again, still. A combination of my need to keep busy and the freedom to actually be able to get out. But obviously that freedom comes at a high price.

Open Letter to Aaron Eckhart

Jonathan Agin | Posted 03.28.2014 | Parents
Jonathan Agin

You see, I am one of those parents who has sat in that room and participated as these raw emotions have flown like water over Niagara Falls. My amazing daughter Alexis was taken from me two weeks shy of her fifth birthday by an indiscriminate killer called brain cancer.

An Unexpected Life Preserver After the Death of My Husband

Jamie Greenebaum | Posted 03.29.2014 | Fifty
Jamie Greenebaum

I found this poem, again. Rob believed that he had experienced a life/death choice during his surgery and wrote this poem from it. I always read it thinking of cancer and illness and death. Now I feel he wrote it as a lifeline to me.

The Important Things We Need To Know About Grief

Megan Devine | Posted 03.25.2014 | Healthy Living
Megan Devine

We need to develop some skillful means both to witness grief, and to live in grief. We need to learn how to support rather than to solve. We need to practice being in there with grief, rather than getting out of it. And we need to hear the distinction between the two.

A Sentence No Parent Should Ever Hear

Eric W. | Posted 03.24.2014 | Healthy Living
Eric W.

A woman from the hospital asked me if I had any friends or family that they could call for me. I shook my head yes. They asked me for the number. I handed them my phone and pointed to my parents in the contact list.

The Power of Creating Rituals After the Loss of a Loved One

Dr. Gail Gross | Posted 03.18.2014 | Healthy Living
Dr. Gail Gross

No one can help you here, not even your mate. You must depend upon your own resource for, in reality, it is that resource that will bring you back to life. The essential self, given time, can reconnect and guide you back up out of the descent.

Ted's Story: From Tragedy to New Beginnings

Jens Erik Gould | Posted 03.13.2014 | Impact
Jens Erik Gould

As a young man, Ted Wiard had an ideal life. He married his high school sweetheart, worked as a schoolteacher and tennis coach in his picturesque hometown of Taos, New Mexico, and became the father of two beautiful daughters. Suddenly, everything changed.

8 Ways to Cope With Grief at Milestones

Omega Institute | Posted 03.09.2014 | Healthy Living
Omega Institute

Author of Broken Open Elizabeth Lesser and Zen psychologist Brenda Shoshanna offer practical ways to make milestones manageable for those who are grie...

Grief and Anxiety: How Can I Calm Down When I Know Bad Things Happen?

Megan Devine | Posted 03.10.2014 | Healthy Living
Megan Devine

The crazy train of fear prevents you from being present to what is, and it most definitely keeps you from enjoying what is here in this moment. Following these steps can get you off that train before it takes you too far.

The Alchemy of Tragedy

Arielle Ford | Posted 03.05.2014 | Healthy Living
Arielle Ford

James Costello was one of the victims of the Boston Marathon bombing earlier this year. He was seriously injured and he now claims that while this wa...

How Many People Does it Take to Fill the Hole in My Heart After My Husband Dies?

Jamie Greenebaum | Posted 03.04.2014 | Fifty
Jamie Greenebaum

Looking back over what I have done and with whom, I am staggered to realize it has taken 18 people to keep me on an even keel for two weeks.

Rules at Impact: How to Survive Early Grief

Megan Devine | Posted 03.02.2014 | Healthy Living
Megan Devine

It's true that unexpected death messes with your world in a way few things can. Adding to this list, or creating a whole new one of your own, might give you just the tiniest roadmap inside a wholly disorienting time.

Rules for Grieving in the New Year -- Or Grieving Like It's 1999

J Mase III | Posted 02.19.2014 | Healthy Living
J Mase III

After the barrage of federal and religious holidays plaguing the fall and winter seasons, many of us dealing with grief are wiped out. So, as I have fended off yet another Christmas mall elf and set my kinara, I've decided next year I will choose to grieve better.

Finding Room For Joy When Everything Has Changed

Kathy Glow | Posted 02.19.2014 | Parents
Kathy Glow

Those of us who grieve deeply never get over it. We live our lives with it, we manage it. But during certain times of the year, the management is much harder. And the grief will swallow us if we're not careful.

"Muddling Through" the Wilderness at Christmas

Rev. Michelle L. Torigian | Posted 02.19.2014 | Religion
Rev. Michelle L. Torigian

Yet, as we muddle through this season, there may be moments when we can begin to see the first rays of dawn. Maybe we begin to observe a few beams of light trickling into a shadow-filled room.

Merry? Happy? Perhaps Not for Those Who Are Grieving

Fredda Wasserman | Posted 02.17.2014 | Impact
Fredda Wasserman

As we move through the holiday season and head into the New Year, our society sends the message loud and clear: this is a time to rejoice, spread good...