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Dealing With Grief

Dealing With Tragedy and Loss

Steve Wiens | Posted 08.04.2013 | Religion
Steve Wiens

When we encounter others who are in pain, we do not know what to do. We do not know how to comfort them. And so we say things to make a really awkward moment less awkward. When we do that, we're actually trying to comfort ourselves, which is understandable, but not helpful.

Camp Widow: Where Death Sucks, Widows Rock, and Hope Matters

Tanya Villanueva Tepper | Posted 08.03.2013 | Impact
Tanya Villanueva Tepper

I was the ripe old age of 33 when I lost my fiancé Sergio on 9/11, and I had the unfortunate "good" luck of having an instant community of peers who were struggling alongside me.

Release Stress by Releasing Attachments

Debbie Gisonni | Posted 07.28.2013 | Healthy Living
Debbie Gisonni

We tend to accumulate a lot of stuff in life. We come into the world as infants with no baggage -- emotionally or physically. As time goes on, people, things and situations come into our life, and our natural inclination is to attach ourselves to all of it, whether or not it continues to serve us.

Through The Valley Of The Shadow

Shannon Huffman Polson | Posted 07.28.2013 | Religion
Shannon Huffman Polson

My dad and stepmother died together on a beach along a river, thousands of miles from me, in Alaska's remote and wild Arctic wilderness. I came to see the place where it happened. Mountains rose on either side of the wide valley, and at first I thought the wild vastness of it all might crush me, and then I felt it embrace me instead.

Birth and Death

Robin Amos Kahn | Posted 07.17.2013 | Healthy Living
Robin Amos Kahn

Lola taught me how to handle adversity and Lucy taught me how to love unconditionally. Lola taught me to laugh and Lucy taught me to cry. She taught me that it's okay to love someone so much that when they finally die, you feel that your heart is broken.

Sean's Gift: Finding Hope In Unexpected Ways After the Loss of My Son

Marie LaPersonerie | Posted 07.14.2013 | Good News
Marie LaPersonerie

Nothing can prepare you for the loss of a child, which is why I never would have guessed that allowing my son's organs to be donated, and thus, letting him live on through the lives of total strangers, would provide the comfort to get through my toughest days.

What I Learned About Motherhood After Losing My Son

Kathy Glow | Posted 07.10.2013 | Parents
Kathy Glow

We're not promised tomorrow or next year or even 20 years from now with our children. We're only promised this moment.

10 Tips on Dealing with Late-Stage Illness and Death

Carol W. Berman, M.D. | Posted 07.10.2013 | Healthy Living
Carol W. Berman, M.D.

Based on my years treating patients who have dealt with the loss of a loved one and my personal experience with my husband's death, I know there are many complicated emotions that one can experience when dealing with late-stage illness and death.

Rosanna Arquette Guides Me on Coping With Grief of Mother's Day

Tory Zellick | Posted 07.06.2013 | Fifty
Tory Zellick

For those who have lost a loved one, holidays can trigger grief. Mother's Day is particularly difficult for me, because I no longer have my mother here to physically spend the day with.

How To Find Relief From Grief

Raymond Torres | Posted 07.01.2013 | Religion
Raymond Torres

When drastic events unfold and shake the ground under our feet, the pain we experience can make us think life is unfair, fragile and without meaning.

Other Parents' Grief

Kate Blanchard | Posted 07.01.2013 | Parents
Kate Blanchard

Those of us with healthy children may, for a time, enjoy the luxury of remaining oblivious to their vulnerability and impermanence. But when a "close call" provides an unwelcome reality check, we can take some comfort in the fact that all parents are, really and truly, in this together

Anywhere But Here: The Vagaries of Grief

Julie Gray | Posted 06.29.2013 | Healthy Living
Julie Gray

You can't outrun grief, I'll tell you that for sure. It is an inconvenient truth if ever there was one. Is it better today than it was three years ago when I got that nightmarish, surreal phone call?

Grief, Stress and Your Adrenals

Dr. Wendie Trubow | Posted 06.29.2013 | Healthy Living
Dr. Wendie Trubow

Grief can do funny things in your body. Depending on our personal makeup, grief is often interpreted as a stressful event.

What to Do When Bad Things Happen to Good People

Marilyn Tam | Posted 06.28.2013 | Healthy Living
Marilyn Tam

We do not know why bad things happen to good people, but we can do what we can to help, and to remember that underneath those dark clouds, the sun is still shining.

5 Techniques To Help Grievers Shift Perspective

Ashley Davis Bush, LCSW | Posted 06.25.2013 | Healthy Living
Ashley Davis Bush, LCSW

Memories are like gold nuggets, nuggets with sharp edges that eventually wear smooth. During the first year or two of grief, memories may be painful, only highlighting the loved one's absence. However, over time, a shift begins to occur.

Normal Reactions to Abnormal Events

David Kessler | Posted 06.24.2013 | Healthy Living
David Kessler

In the aftermath, it is important to remember that our grief is as unique as our fingerprints. Each of us will have our own normal reactions to the abnormal events that we have just witnessed.

Letting Love Win: Coping with Fear, Anger, Grief and Despair in the Wake of Tragedy

Lauren Jacobs | Posted 06.19.2013 | Healthy Living
Lauren Jacobs

It can be so hard to find love in our hearts, to imagine peace, to practice compassion, to have faith in a benevolent universe after terrible things happen. But for as long as we hold on to anger and fear, we add to the darkness in our own hearts and in the world.

Dr. Gail Saltz With Marlo Thomas (WATCH)

Posted 08.14.2013 | MarloThomas

This week, psychiatrist Dr. Gail Saltz joined me for this special episode of Mondays With Marlo. We've all read and watched the horrific events that o...

It's Cancer: God, Why Didn't You Heal Them?

Rick Hendrix | Posted 06.18.2013 | Religion
Rick Hendrix

The Bible says God gives good things to those who ask. God cannot give me a bad gift. He loves me too much. So what was the gift in losing my best friend and mother to cancer?

Sitting By A Friend: Confucius On Tragedy

Rodney L. Taylor, Ph.D. | Posted 06.17.2013 | Religion
Rodney L. Taylor, Ph.D.

May we take these words to heart and in our own small ways practice the empathy, the true care for others, the world so desperately needs in this hour.

8 Ways To Cope With The Boston Marathon Tragedy

Dani Meier | Posted 06.17.2013 | Healthy Living
Dani Meier

How do we wake to a new day and move forward? What do we say to ourselves, to each other, to our children? Sadly, no explanation can make sense of this mindless devastation. Nonetheless, there are some things we can do to take care of ourselves and to take care of each other.

A Buddhist Meditation Practice For The Boston Marathon Tragedy

Lodro Rinzler | Posted 06.16.2013 | Religion
Lodro Rinzler

When something like this happens, we often say, "There are no words." Perhaps we should not yet go to words. For those of us located outside of the Boston area, we may not yet be able to go to deeds either. For now, maybe it is OK to go to our vast broken heart.

The Zen of Miscarriage

Cheryl Dumesnil | Posted 06.12.2013 | Parents
Cheryl Dumesnil

How do you say goodbye to someone with whom you shared not a past full of memories, but a future made of fantasies? How do you make space for sadness when you're surrounded by messages, both internal and external, telling you to buck up and move on?

The Heartbeat: Remembering Roger Ebert and Jane Kleinman

Andrew_Friedman | Posted 06.10.2013 | Arts

I learned of the death of two people who had a tremendous impact on my life last week: One you've heard of and one you probably haven't. Both helped me understand myself a little better when I was a teenager and then, unexpectedly, taught me something about death and dying as an adult.

A Meditation On Impermanence

MeiMei Fox | Posted 06.06.2013 | Healthy Living
MeiMei Fox

There is a message here about impermanence. While I've heard it many times before, somehow every time an unexpected event happens or I receive unwelcome news, I have to learn the lesson all over again. We are not in control of so many things.