There are several types of men who have difficulty committing and while they vary in intensity, they all have common fears and similar characteristics with different ways of expressing their phobias. No matter what type the Commitment Phobe may be, their behaviors are equally devastating to the women who love them.
Mental health professionals are like any other kind of professionals. Some are excellent; some are poor. Most are somewhere in between. You start with a leg up if you find someone who is well-trained in a kind of psychotherapy that has a very strong evidence base. Don't get discouraged if the therapist you're seeing isn't helpful enough. It just means you haven't yet found the right person.
If you have a teen or teens then I am quite confident that you are more than just a little consumed by worry and anxiety. This is an inevitable part of being parents to children who are at the age where they test limits and as a result put you in the unenviable position of having to push back. What a tricky set of dance steps you have to deal with during these years.