If you have a teen or teens then I am quite confident that you are more than just a little consumed by worry and anxiety. This is an inevitable part of being parents to children who are at the age where they test limits and as a result put you in the unenviable position of having to push back. What a tricky set of dance steps you have to deal with during these years.
Being ridiculously in charge of your own life doesn't mean trying to control the uncontrollable, or trying to "manage" every element of your life. And it doesn't mean never feeling bad or being upset. It means having the integrity to recognize what is real, releasing the human tendency to resist reality when it's uncomfortable, and developing mastery over yourself and only yourself.