Rather than asking yourself if a food is low-fat, low-carb or low-calorie, try asking yourself: Am I truly physically hungry? What sounds delicious to me right now? Is eating this food being loving to my body? What seems like a sane, moderate amount? Is this what I would serve someone else who does not diet or overeat?
Diets don't address many of the root issues of weight gain: emotions, habits and unconscious behavior. In fact, they promise that when you diet, you'll become the perfect person. But, spoiler alert, even at a smaller size, you're still the same person. Do the more challenging emotional work and the results will pay off for good.
With years of experimental dieting behind me, I have finally settled on eating food that makes me feel good, which can basically be summarized as lots of vegetables, some meat and grain, and almost exclusively organic, seasonal, humanely-raised, and local ingredients... interspersed with occasional, delicious -- if not healthy -- treats.