Some perceptions of disability and illness are too messed up and extreme for my liking. Persons living with these conditions are seen as really good or really bad, but there never seems to be a middle ground. This means that disability/illness status is used to judge our characters. Without further ado, here's the "good" and the "bad" of disability/illness perceptions.
Like every new dad, as I held my newborn son, I dreamed of teaching him to play catch, shoot a basketball, and ride his first bicycle. But Max was different. A premature twin, I couldn't hold him for months, and when I did, he fit in my two hands. A few months later, I found out Max had been diagnosed with cerebral palsy.
Control has become such an important part of my sexual identity, it even factors into the type of sex that I'll have. This is my moment to feel whole as a man; it is a split second in time that is not regulated by bookings, bed times and schedules. I get to actually have someone there with me out of want -- not necessity.