With little children, it is obvious that we need to act as their prefrontal cortex because we know that they aren't capable of inhibiting their impulses. We keep them close when we're near the street and make sure not to leave sweets sitting around where they will have trouble resisting them.
Before I correct my kids, I have to ask myself if what they said is only bothering me because it's the truth.
Plenty of good parenting happens by instinct, and instinct is essential in parenting. But that's when I realized that not all of the parenting instincts we have are the parenting instincts we want to have.
Children who feel liked, cherished and enjoyed want to behave well because they naturally want to please us. When they sense tension between their parents, or have no tools for managing frustration, their behavior can take a turn for the worse.
You are your child's ally, the one who will chart the course for her development. Therefore, it is important to guide her toward positive solutions.
Why is it OK to be openly clueless"as a parent, but not openly confident? Is it all a backlash against Tiger Moms and Helicopter Parents? Whatever the case, it seems that it is not acceptable to openly strive for competence in the most important role that we will ever have.
Anyone can tell you that discipline is a messy business. Not even the best of parents could possibly get it right all the time. However, part of what complicates the process of teaching our kids to behave is that parents bring a lot of their own baggage to the table.
Moving towards our kids is so important -- even more so in those moments when we feel it's the last thing we want to do.
With the December 1 trial date tentatively set for Minnesota Vikings running back Adrian Peterson for charges of reckless or negligent injury towards his 4-year-old son when he whipped him with a switch last May, child discipline will again be part of the national conversation. When does punishment go too far?
Do you have an overly active, creative brain? Do you struggle to focus on any one thing long enough to get traction to take the idea to its fullest potential? This can be a serious problem that at best is exhausting and at worst is paralyzing.
People like Bill O'Reilly call upon people to raise themselves up while helping keep a foot on their necks.
I started treating him like my buddy rather than a nuisance. I gave him the responsibility that he deserved, was capable of and wanted. I stopped pushing him to the side in the chaos of everyday life and slowed down to spend time with him.
Coming as close as we did to losing our marriage, we learned to truly care for and appreciate each other to a degree that we may not have experienced otherwise.
I'm learning how to weather these changing seasons as a parent. I'm not a new mom, I'm not really even a veteran mom. But, I'm becoming the mom my children need today.
Most children would rather learn -- often through play -- than eat. It doesn't take much food, or time, to fill a 4-year-old's belly. So if you want her to be more involved in what happens at the dinner table, try to make it more welcoming.
Since I'd snapped at her, we decided I should get a timeout. I congratulated myself on the creative parenting while she paused at the door. Her eyes were wet. "I won't close it," she said. "I don't want you to be scared."