If your boys are playing together and your nephew gets frustrated with your son, help him feel sad.
When we really drill down into what sharing is and what it isn't and what it means to share, we might find ourselves misaligned, misinformed or simply mistaken. So here are seven thoughts to provoke your stance on sharing and whether or not sharing truly equals caring.
The next time your anxious child makes a mistake, take a deep breath, encourage your child to do the same, and by talking it through, give your child the gift of seeing that there is life on the other side of this moment.
I want my children to be sorry, not just say it. I want them to know why they are sorry, and to leave the situation with a plan to avoid repeating it. That is why I changed the apology process at our house. This is what it looks like now.
My 4 1/2-year-old son is a sweet boy, but he seems to lose his ability to listen or calm down whenever he is deep in play with his friends.
You know that skittish, trapped feeling you get when your children are uncooperative and you're running late? That's certainly worthy of our attention. Recognizing our emotional state requires that we tune in and notice.
"We're supposed to be sharing with the rest of the group a resolution we haven't kept," I'm told. "Do you have one?" Oh, I do. I have an embarrassment of choices. I blurt out, "I vowed I'd write a regular blog, and I haven't honored it."
No one will push our buttons like our children. But seen another way, no one provides us with such rich opportunities to heal the tender and wounded parts of ourselves like our kids, either.
Grant me patience, Lord, but hurry. I recited these words like a mantra on our recent snow day, the second school cancellation in a week. Blindsided by the blizzard, everyone trapped at home again, I steeled myself for the hours ahead.
While there are more problems than ever, there are also more solutions. Technology now allows for worldwide collaboration and revolutionary impact with almost no barriers. So get busy. Find a problem that matters to you and become the change agent you were meant to be.
Using these three steps, children learn about your expectations for specific behaviors, they're told the consequences if expectations are not met, and they're sanctioned if they fail to meet those expectations. Below are definitions and examples of each step.
Our kids are a generation growing up in the shadows of reality television, flash-in-the-pan YouTube stars, TMZ and social media wars.
When we shame, bribe, punish and lecture, we send the message that our children are wrong for acting in these normal, though undesirable, ways.
Every parent has said it. My parents said it. My husband's parents said it. I'm pretty sure my great-great-great-grandparents said it, but back then it sounded more like, "If you keep sassin' your pa, I'll turn this buggy around, an whoop your ass down by the crick.
Remember: As a parent, your job is to give your child unconditional love and support -- but also to demonstrate that when you misbehave, there are consequences for your actions.
According to the U.S. Office for Civil Rights, black students are more than three times as likely as white students to be suspended or expelled from school. Surprisingly, there has been little scientific study of the psychological processes underlying this discipline gap.