When the Supreme Court declared that part of the Defense of Marriage Act was unconstitutional, we came a little closer to seeing a promised land. It is a good moment to look back on the journey, and the role that Reform Judaism played along the way.
Contrary to the allegations being made by some conservative groups and commentators, no military chaplain has been, or ever will be, required to perform a same gender wedding if to do so would be contrary to their faith tradition or religious beliefs.
For far too long, the South has been dismissed as "unwinnable" when it comes to LGBT rights and, as a result, receives remarkably limited funding. LGBT people proudly call this region home, though, building their lives and families here.
Really? Argle-bargle? The term doesn't appear in my dictionary, but I take it to mean an incoherent ramble, the equivalent of gibberish. And to apply it to the legal arguments that a generation of lawyers and legal scholars have debated for years is, itself, offensive.
Maybe despite their screams to the press that they would win, they knew what was coming, what was inevitable. What followed that amazing day when my husband and I woke up without equality and went to bed with 1,100 more rights, was truly dumbfounding.
We had intended to be somewhat tongue-in-cheek about our marriage. In the hours leading up to the "I do," we kept trying the word "wife" on for size, and then guffawing at the absurdity of how it sounded. But before we knew it, romance had crept in.
Do the increasing acceptance of homosexuality and the recent Supreme Court rulings mean that anti-LGBT prejudice is on the way out? Not exactly. Just like racism and sexism are alive and well in 2013, I suspect the same will be true for heterosexism several decades from now.
On the steps of the Supreme Court, we began to sing the national anthem. I'm amazed by how incredible it feels to sing this. It's a powerful thing to hear a host of men's voices blending together, marginalized citizens showing pride in and passion for a country slow to embrace them fully.
At 18, I stuffed my natural attraction to women down into my soul and chose to date men, all because a shrink had said that anyone who was homosexual couldn't possibly be normal, because who would "choose" such a difficult life?
Last week's Supreme Court rulings will enable more discrimination against women and racial minorities. Yet because none of these cases presented discrimination as blatantly as DOMA did, the justices could more easily disclaim responsibility for the anti-equality consequences of their rulings.