By being aware of and consciously guiding our attention toward other, less-apparent possible references, we can guide our behavior and feelings.
Man: Oh, OK, I guess I see her point. I'm sorry, so I'll tell her that, and then this whole nightmare is over. Then we can watch TV or have sex. It's 7:59 now so we should be able to start watching at 8, good deal.
I never cease to be amazed at the power that using problem solving over punishment or reward can have on actually making situations better. Problem solving has never let us down. Yelling, however, has never worked.
Make no mistake, this is no ego-fluffing, 'finishing means you are a winner' type affair, it is about doing and being your best.
Over the course of my 2.5-career reinventions over the past 25 years, my three top lessons have been the following.
By the time I started school, my mother's bulimia was a normal part of my life. But as I grew, her focus on my looks and her fears weighed heavily on me. It would take me years to figure out that it was never about me at all.
Looks like science has given me a free pass to over-indulge at my college reunion this year.
For Japanese macaque monkeys, status is important. If a high-status macaque bites a low-status macaque, the low-status monkey will not attack back. Th...
1980 was a tragic year for Sofia Hernandez and her family. Government security forces and right wing death squads were terrorizing the rural population of El Salvador. By March, Sofia's family had fled their home in the countryside in hopes of finding safety.
We've grown weary, disconnected, distracted or detached. We've lost our connection with our inner fire -- our unique experience of being alive and belonging in a greater sense to others, and the world around us.
To be sure, many men who hit or emotionally abuse their partners were themselves abused as kids, but many men have also risen above their brutal childhoods and broken that cycle. Being abused doesn't automatically make you an abuser.
Truth be told, grief makes a lot of people uncomfortable. It's hard to see someone you care about torn up emotionally. It's natural to want to fix them, but that's just not possible. Therefore, the most helpful thing you can do for someone who is hurting is to offer to just be there for them in whatever capacity they need.
Understand, this too, shall pass. Like the waves of the tide, your moods ebb and flow. You can trust in the ways of the universe -- your low mood will lift in time.
Demeter and Persephone, Asia Minor, 100 BCE The term codependency comes out of the recovery movement with the reliably frequent observation that ...
The risk features involve power, privilege and prestige, the value placed on group membership, the prioritization of group loyalty, the impulse to protect an image, and an institutional sense of righteousness and entitlement.
Managing expectations often comes down to noticing your symptoms of overwhelm, identifying the expectation that's causing trouble and then flipping the expectation on its head.
. Face up to a truth you're avoiding. Have the courage to have clarifying conversations and put more attention on the words coming out of your mouth instead of the food going into your mouth. Listen to your telepathic stomach and learn to read the signals your body is sending you.
While sharing about BLVR's investment in us, I shared my personal story of being sexually abused by a family friend when I was six, keeping it secret until after graduating college, and about the heavy toll it took on my life.
I'm all for development of superior machine intelligence that can help the world out with its brilliant analytical skills. But programming AI with mammalian ideas, modern-day philosophies, and the fallibilities of the human spirit is dangerous and will possibly lead to total chaos.
Experts agree that emotional intelligence has three major elements: perceiving, understanding, and regulating emotions. Let's recognize it for what it is: a set of skills that can be beneficial in situations where emotional information is rich or vital.