Even though it's easier to believe we're the victims of our circumstances, it's empowering to take ownership of how the world around us impacts our well-being. Regardless of the situation you find yourself in, I believe that you always have a choice, and there are always things within your control that you can focus on.
The thing is, it takes a great deal of energy and effort to combat "hot" emotional impulses with cognitive cool thinking. Plus, suppressing emotions is stressful and takes a toll physically and emotionally.
I went back to the data to uncover the kinds of things that emotionally intelligent people are careful to avoid in order to keep themselves calm, content, and in control.
The desire to seal off borders and quarantine the health care workers is driven to a large extent by our ancestral behavioral immune system. Cues that once improved survival have become maladaptive behaviors in our contemporary world.
Sooner or later, they're going to catch you picking your nose. Well, maybe not. Maybe you'll be fishing your keys out of a storm drain, or talking t...
Recovery is not negotiable. You can either make time to rest and rejuvenate now or make time to be sick and injured later. Keep your bucket full.
Recently, a friend asked if I have money wisdom to share. I contemplated what the symbol called money really stands for, and how it serves us in hono...
Parenting always comes down to the relationship you have with this person who is in the world. And today's parenting will look different from the parenting in 3014.
While I've run across numerous effective strategies that successful people employ when faced with stress, what follows are 10 of the best. Some of these strategies may seem obvious, but the real challenge lies in recognizing when you need to use them...
October is the month of fall, football, and domestic violence (DV). Although the first DV Awareness Month was established In October of 1987, unfortunately a disturbing video of a football star has provoked more public discourse on domestic violence than the longstanding efforts of government agencies and non-profits.
If you want to make a masterpiece, you have to be willing to create a little garbage along the way.
When I was more of a night owl, I spent a lot of time in the East Village at the theater Under St. Marks listening to one of the most powerful storyte...
As I turn the page on a new chapter of my life -- sober, aware, present, instinctual -- it only made sense that I search for a new place to hang my hat.
"I know how you feel. My goldfish died, and we had to flush it down the toilet." Really? To this day, Owen recalls overhearing another student make t...
We can only end domestic violence when enough people are willing to acknowledge its existence and recognize the next headline may be your friend, sister, mother, or yourself.
The notion that cosmetic surgery is a "simple beauty treatment" is a contradiction in terms, a paradox of sorts. Surgery is almost never simple, physically or psychologically, and the more we believe it's a solution to our beauty needs, the less beautiful we tend to feel.
As a dreamy, driven teen, it was a challenge that both daunted and inspired me throughout my high school career. My dreams were always out-of-the-box -- an artist of some sort -- an actress, maybe a film-maker ... but luckily I was someone who figured out how to comfortably be in-the-box, keeping my out-of-the-box thoughts mostly to myself.
You are not defined by what you accomplish. How much time you give or money you make. How many committee meetings you attend. How quickly you text people back after they text you. What you do is important. But it's not everything. You can sit down. Relax. Breathe. Sometimes... things can be about you.
A boundary was crossed. The reaction to Renée Zellweger's face is neither an aversion to plastic surgery nor an expression of shock towards what people are calling an identity change.