For most people family relationships are the most challenging in our lives, so it's not surprising that if we are in a place of profound loss and vulnerability then spending time with family members at Christmas may trigger some complex emotional responses.
If someone has treated us badly, an inability to forgive will cause the situation to return to our mind again and again, each time loaded with intense emotions that can eat away at our own inner well-being. It is important to remember that forgiveness doesn't mean that we are condoning something that wasn't all right.
By stopping and becoming aware of our thoughts, we allow ourselves to take a step outside of the picture long enough to observe what's going on so that we can make a conscious decision about how we want to feel.
There are three ways you can make this year the year it all goes differently. The year you have a genuine smile on your face as you walk through that door, pick up the phone or open Skype. This is the year the holidays and home aren't a struggle, but a welcome experience.
This can be a very heavy time of year. We put on heavy clothing to go out into heavy snow. We drive through heavy traffic to carry our heavy boxes of ...
Yes, maybe it was never my fault that I was depressed, but I am in many ways flawed, just as you are. I am not innocent, just as you're not. The only difference is that the depressed feel the weight of their flaws far more intensely than those who are not depressed.
Don't assume something is going to be hard or easy for yourself or someone else who is grieving. Triggers may not be what you think. There is no specific formula for finding just the right combination of maintaining some traditions and creating new ones.
When strength wins in the mind, it wins in the body. Inner strength literally becomes action. What we think becomes what we do, which eventually becomes who we are.
Let's face it. Work takes up a lot of our emotional energy. Add in a difficult colleague, feeling disconnected from your job, or the frustration of being constantly overlooked, and I guarantee that this will carry over into your home life.
All the winter holidays hold one thing in common: a celebration of light. It makes sense, really. During the coldest, darkest time of year, here come the holidays, with their Diwali lamps, menorahs, and Yule logs, to set our hearts aglow. Or not.
As the old adage goes, if you think you're enlightened, go home to mom and dad and the rest of the family and see what happens. If you haven't completely released the grip of the past, it will surely come back to haunt you now.
I was steps away from the Far Away Café only it wasn't far enough away. The name evokes a tropical location, bongos and Pina Coladas. Instead, it w...
When you treat your body and mind with loving care, you are able to be more present with the people and situations around you. More than chocolate bark or gingerbread, that's the sign of a sweet holiday.
Holiday toy drives, donations to food banks, visiting a nursing home, making homemade cards, donating money, and serving meals at a shelter are great ways to practice gratitude. See if you can get your friends and family to go together. Doing something for others can make your holiday experience especially meaningful -- and put that fight over stuffing into perspective.
As a life coach, I spend a lot of time helping clients to pay close attention to their autopilot reaction to challenges in their lives. What you consider to be challenges and how you respond to them are defining factors in the quality of your life.
The pain of not having a significant other over the holidays can feel like a deep purple bruise. The pain of a breakup can feel like a gaping wound you're trying to close with a Band-Aid.