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End of Life

How to Write Your Own Will

Jim T. Miller | Posted 01.07.2013 | Fifty
Jim T. Miller

If you have a simple, straightforward estate and an uncomplicated family situation, writing your own will -- with the help of a good do-it-yourself guide -- is a viable alternative to hiring an attorney.

Nothing You Can Say Will Make Them Feel Better

Rev. Dr. Martha R. Jacobs | Posted 01.06.2013 | Religion
Rev. Dr. Martha R. Jacobs

We seem to think that we need to have the answers for people's pain and sadness. We don't. What we need to have is the ability to sit with someone and not say anything. Nothing you can say will make them feel better.

Finding Maria: Spiritual Care and Alzheimer's Disease

Karen M. Wyatt, M.D. | Posted 01.06.2013 | Healthy Living
Karen M. Wyatt, M.D.

Maria fulfilled a profound purpose in those last few months of her life; she taught me the soul cannot be diminished by any illness or injury that damages the physical body.

When the End Is Near, What Really Matters?

Marie Marley | Posted 01.23.2014 | Fifty
Marie Marley

I felt as if ordering hospice care for Ed would be tantamount to signing his death warrant.

The Price We Pay For Loving

Rev. Dr. Martha R. Jacobs | Posted 12.04.2012 | Religion
Rev. Dr. Martha R. Jacobs

This is the price we pay for loving others: the pain of the loss of their presence from our lives and the loss of their love, which they displayed in so many different ways throughout our mutually lived lives.

How to Help a Friend at the End of Life

Hollye Harrington Jacobs | Posted 11.28.2012 | Healthy Living
Hollye Harrington Jacobs

The Silver Lining is that being with a person at the end of life is one of the most sacred and powerful experiences, and there are ways to help you both.

5 Reasons I Won't Die The Way My Mother Did

Next Avenue | Posted 09.28.2012 | Fifty

SPECIAL FROM Next Avenue By Erica Manfred After witnessing her mother's decline, a daughter pledges to do it differently When a parent dies, ...

You Never Know Until You're There

Martha Nelson | Posted 11.18.2012 | Fifty
Martha Nelson

As she aged, she'd see a show on television or read something in the newspaper about a lingering or painful death and say with conviction, "When my time comes, let me go."

Uninformed Consent, Unshared Decision-Making in the ICU

Barbara Coombs Lee | Posted 11.10.2012 | Healthy Living
Barbara Coombs Lee

Sadly, informed consent and shared decision-making, the twin pillars of patient-centered health care, aren't the rock-solid structures we would hope for. That's the lesson of a new study in the Journal of Intensive Care Medicine.

It's Time to Start Talking About End of Life

Joseph Nowinski, Ph.D. | Posted 10.29.2012 | Fifty
Joseph Nowinski, Ph.D.

It was my father, not I, who initiated the end-of-life "conversation" that would extend over more than two years. It began when he asked me to come over so we could review some "materials" he'd put together.

A Personal Musing on Grieving Moms: The Destination We Don't Want on Our GPS

Laura Berman Fortgang | Posted 10.27.2012 | Healthy Living
Laura Berman Fortgang

And so the days have been. It could all change tomorrow. I could be a grieving mom. I hope the day never comes. Dare I say, in a small way I grive with these moms. I am so sorry they have lost their babies. I am in awe of their courage.

My Wound Is Deep, But Clean

Rev. Dr. Martha R. Jacobs | Posted 09.30.2012 | Religion
Rev. Dr. Martha R. Jacobs

I cannot imagine what it might be like for someone who has outstanding issues with their loved one who dies. I was lucky to be able to spend a lot of time with my mother prior to her death.

Three Tickets to an Exotic Life at Any Age

Martha Nelson | Posted 09.15.2012 | Fifty
Martha Nelson

Here are three things that can make life more interesting -- no trip to India required.

Facing Frailty at End of Life

Joseph Nowinski, Ph.D. | Posted 08.27.2012 | Healthy Living
Joseph Nowinski, Ph.D.

My father does not want to die and I understand that. That said, I have watched as over the past three years the quality of his life has been steadily reduce to something approaching zero.

Hospice Care: No One Should Die Alone

Jeanne Dennis | Posted 08.26.2012 | Healthy Living
Jeanne Dennis

Vigil volunteers receive special training and are part of a team that works in shifts, to be there for the patient when doctors or other caregivers have determined that death is imminent -- usually within 24 or 48 hours.

Hospice: The Power of Flowers

Jeanne Dennis | Posted 08.08.2012 | Healthy Living
Jeanne Dennis

The focus in hospice is not on cure but on relieving symptoms such as pain, nausea and fatigue, and on creating the best possible quality of life in one's final days. Flowers, along with attention to other details of environment, surely play a role.

Lessons From Life's Last Moments

Arthur Rosenfeld | Posted 07.29.2012 | Religion
Arthur Rosenfeld

The sound of the siren is so distant it's obvious the ambulance will not arrive in time. Lying there, what can you think of that you wish you had done? Who do you wish you had spent your time with?

Are You Making Decisions About Your Health Care In A Vacuum?

Rev. Dr. Martha R. Jacobs | Posted 07.18.2012 | Religion
Rev. Dr. Martha R. Jacobs

Knowledge is power. There is no knowledge more important than to have knowledge about what all of your options are as you approach the end of your life or as you make decisions about life-changing conditions.

Can A Person 'Suffer From Life'?

Rev. Dr. Martha R. Jacobs | Posted 06.27.2012 | Religion
Rev. Dr. Martha R. Jacobs

Do you think that there is such a thing as "suffering from life"? Do you think that people should be able to make their own decision as to whether or not to end their life?

Death And Taxes: Why We Need To Talk Openly About End-of-Life Care

Rev. Dr. Martha R. Jacobs | Posted 06.13.2012 | Home
Rev. Dr. Martha R. Jacobs

The greatest gift you can give to your family, is letting them know what your wishes are regarding how you want your body treated as you near the end of your life. So, in addition to preparing your tax return, take the time to prepare your advance directive.

3 Zen Ways to Nurture the Very Sick

Marguerite Manteau-Rao | Posted 06.13.2012 | Healthy Living
Marguerite Manteau-Rao

Food is one of the last few pleasures left when illness leaves one laying in bed in a small room with little else available in terms of sensory gratification. Food is also an important part of caregiving.

Lent: An Excuse To Say 'I Love You'

Rev. Dr. Martha R. Jacobs | Posted 04.25.2012 | Religion
Rev. Dr. Martha R. Jacobs

Allow Lent to be a time to "turn another way," to do something with an intention towards those whom you love.

David Oliver: A Different Kind of Courage

David Casarett, M.D. | Posted 04.09.2012 | Healthy Living
David Casarett, M.D.

I often hear my patients and their families talk about courage. They say that someone faced his illness courageously, for instance. When they talk about courage, though, they're usually talking about a very specific kind of courage that has to do with the way that a patient is struggling with an illness.

Maintaining A Relationship With God When Your Life Is Intolerable

Rev. Dr. Martha R. Jacobs | Posted 04.02.2012 | Religion
Rev. Dr. Martha R. Jacobs

God is there to help us get through those challenges, not to inflict them.

The Death and Dying Series Part One: How Do You Relate to Death?

Judith Johnson | Posted 03.26.2012 | Healthy Living
Judith Johnson

Talking about and dealing with death is our last great social taboo. We all know that we will die someday as will our beloved ones and cherished pets and everybody else. Yet, most of us relate to death as wrong -- as something that shouldn't happen.