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Expectations

A Happiness Experiment: The Good, The Bad And The Miserable?

Janice Taylor | Posted 11.12.2014 | Healthy Living
Janice Taylor

I don't know about you (although I could make a guess), but I have super powers -- an innate ability, a real knack for the "miserable." I have the power to be in a bliss state, and in a New York minute, I can and do turn supreme happiness on its ear.

10 Steps To Have Better Post-Pregnancy Sex

Dr. Yvonne K. Fulbright | Posted 11.11.2014 | Parents
Dr. Yvonne K. Fulbright

The key to an erotic endeavor post-pregnancy is taking your time. Some mothers may feel traumatized by the experience of having been, quite literally, split wide open. The prospect of allowing anything -- small or large -- to enter the vaginal area can seem more than daunting.

7 Truths Women Are Afraid To Share

Traci Bild | Posted 11.10.2014 | Women
Traci Bild

Truth be told, we're exhausted. While it's easy to discuss how busy we are at work, the vacations taken over the summer, and which sports the kids are participating in this fall, it's not easy to talk about the stress, anxiety and guilt that surrounds our everyday existence as women.

There is More to Life Than Freshman Year

Susan Kaufman | Posted 11.08.2014 | College
Susan Kaufman

Sometimes you have to completely throw yourself into something and not look up until all you see is clear sky. I think expectations, snap judgments, and insecurities cloud the conscience; they keep us from living and investing in the present.

Realizing 'The One' Isn't

Rachel Bass | Posted 11.05.2014 | Women
Rachel Bass

Life can be the journey you want it to be, and it's ok to realize that the path you believed was your destiny isn't. In the moment, it's hard to comprehend, but when we work on ourselves, all we can do is put our faith in fate and believe that one day, "the one" is.

Homework Is Stupid and I Hate Everything!

Tamar Chansky | Posted 11.05.2014 | Parents
Tamar Chansky

We need to teach kids that a little bit of struggle is a normal and expected part of anyone's climb on the learning curve.

The Right Questions to Ask to Help Kids Take Charge of Back-to-School Fears

Tamar Chansky | Posted 10.28.2014 | Parents
Tamar Chansky

A better way. Instead of trying to talk your child out of their fears by rushing in with reassurances that aren't helping anyway, help your child come to these very good and reasonable conclusions you are offering, on their own steam, by flipping them around and asking the right questions.

The Differences Between The First And Second Child

Sarah Cottrell | Posted 10.25.2014 | Parents
Sarah Cottrell

In many predictable ways having a second child has changed my mothering -- for example, increasing my forgetfulness while simultaneously decreasing my reservoir of patience. My second child has just reached his first birthday and with that celebratory occasion came a mountain of realizations for me about the differences between baby number one and baby number two.

I'm Homesick! What Parents Can Say to Their Anxious College Student

Tamar Chansky | Posted 10.25.2014 | Parents
Tamar Chansky

The best things in life come out of change, and this is one that both you and your child have been working toward for many, many years!

How to Break Free of Being Trapped By Your Own Low Expectations

Elizabeth Grace Saunders | Posted 10.22.2014 | Healthy Living
Elizabeth Grace Saunders

My time coaching has helped my client Phil, but he also has taught me things -- like sending me an exercise I could share with you about how to get out of being trapped by our own low expectations.

Love Is A Myth

Brian Finkelstein | Posted 10.22.2014 | Healthy Living
Brian Finkelstein

I am a cynical cliché of a man. And, like most misanthropes, what has fueled my pessimism -- ironically -- is my optimism. When you go through life expecting intelligence, honesty and fairness, but you get the Tea Party, McSalads, and Prop 8... you tend to become a bitter grump.

The Truth About Marriage

Joy Mushacke Smith | Posted 10.15.2014 | Weddings
Joy Mushacke Smith

The best thing we can do is be honest about it -- speak the truth: marriage is wonderful, but never perfect and should never be entered into without a clear understanding of what's at stake.

The Garden Of Good Intentions

Marie Zullo | Posted 10.13.2014 | Parents
Marie Zullo

Walking through the yard, I came across some irises I had purchased 4 years ago. They were thriving, right along with the weeds, even though they were still in the pot they came in when I purchased them. I really need to plant those, I thought. I thought that every time I walked by these irises, but this time, I was going to do it.

When What You Expect Is Not What Is

Tausha Cowan | Posted 10.12.2014 | Healthy Living
Tausha Cowan

Change outside our control doesn't always equate to bad change. I learn that every day, whether it's a rescheduled boat trip or something much more important to my livelihood.

I Wonder What My Barbie Would Think Of Me Now

Marie Zullo | Posted 10.03.2014 | Parents
Marie Zullo

Like so many young girls, I spent much of my childhood playing with my Barbie. While my friends' Barbies were making wedding plans with Ken or decorating their Barbie homes, my Barbie was studying to be a lawyer. Though she was happy dating Ken, she was in no rush to marry him. She never sat in the passenger's seat of her convertible. She drove.

9 Things You Can Expect During Your Divorce

Elinor Robin, PhD | Posted 09.09.2014 | Divorce
Elinor Robin, PhD

Ironically, both spouses often feel like they are at a disadvantage. The spouse who is driving the divorce often feels like s/he is being held hostage as the courts crawl along and the spouse who wants the marriage to continue employs various stalling tactics.

Meetings in Wonderland

Renee Cullinan | Posted 09.08.2014 | Business
Renee Cullinan

Too often, we embark on the journey like Alice in Wonderland, with only a vague destination in mind and no sense of the path it will take to get there. And then, because it feels like forward momentum, we schedule a bunch of meetings. We're moving now, aren't we?

Great Expectations: What Would Life Be Without Them?

Janet M. Neal | Posted 09.07.2014 | Healthy Living
Janet M. Neal

When you can let go of expectations, let go of the need for controlled outcomes, life really does flow perfectly. And there's nothing wrong with that!

Yagana Shah

Being A Grandparent: Expectation Vs. Reality

HuffingtonPost.com | Yagana Shah | Posted 07.07.2014 | Fifty

You've pestered your kids for years about when they'll finally get their act together and start a family so you can have some adorable grandkids to pl...

Does a Cancer Diagnosis Turn You Into a Better Person?

Nancy Stordahl | Posted 08.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Nancy Stordahl

In addition to the physical alterations, I might very well be less patient, less willing to conform, more easily distracted and far more opinionated. I'm not the same person in many ways, but yet of course I am.

Thriving Through Acceptance of Self

Mari Lyles | Posted 08.05.2014 | Women
Mari Lyles

I love my looks, and quite frankly, I could care less if it matters to anyone else. It took me many years to reach that place of confidence, despite irregular features. But my own concept of beauty allows me to be as beautiful as I want to be, and I've noticed that the world responds on my terms.

The Expectations of the American

Frank H. Wu | Posted 08.01.2014 | Entertainment
Frank H. Wu

The American was much maligned. It is a great movie. It suffers only from its marketing campaign. It was promoted as an action thriller in which Geo...

Thriving Through Forgiveness

Kathy Daniels | Posted 07.30.2014 | Healthy Living
Kathy Daniels

Forgiveness is exactly what needs to be done in order for you to grow emotionally, physically and spiritually. This is a major component of joyful living.

Barbara Annis and Dr. Keith Merron On the Need for Gender Intelligence, An Exclusive Interview (Pt 2)

Jarod Cerf | Posted 07.22.2014 | Books
Jarod Cerf

Although we touched upon the need for gender intelligence in education and leadership last week, in our next few pieces we'll dig a bit deeper with Barbara Annis and Dr. Keith Merron, authors of Gender Intelligence, into how our expectations can shape our decisions on policy and practice.

A Tale of Two Kindergartens -- Well, Three Now That I Think About It

Karin Chenoweth | Posted 07.16.2014 | Education
Karin Chenoweth

In conversations about education, there is a lot of talk about "higher expectations," and it isn't always clear what that means. But in the last few ...