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Expectations

A Tale of Two Kindergartens -- Well, Three Now That I Think About It

Karin Chenoweth | Posted 06.19.2015 | Education
Karin Chenoweth

In conversations about education, there is a lot of talk about "higher expectations," and it isn't always clear what that means. But in the last few ...

Resurrecting the Real You: Spring 2014

Luann Robinson Hull | Posted 06.25.2014 | Women
Luann Robinson Hull

How much of our moods and attitudes are dependent on weather conditions (and other stuff)? For example, I visited Central Park in NYC a couple of weekends ago. There was barely a square inch left un-occupied on that sunny, spring afternoon. "The New York state of mind" was mellow, light, and breezy -- not always an attitude associated with the typical New Yorker.

Recovery Expressions That Blew My Mind

Anna David | Posted 06.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Anna David

Sitting in meetings, or just talking to people outside of them, I'd hear stuff that some could say was were nearly cliché-like in its simplicity but it made so much sense that I couldn't help repeating it to nearly everyone I came into contact with.

Should I Stay or Should I Go? Take This Self-Assessment

Michael S. Broder, Ph.D. | Posted 06.07.2014 | Healthy Living
Michael S. Broder, Ph.D.

If your relationship were a fire, is it still burning strongly? Flickering? Smoldering? Does it need kindling or a log? Has the last spark of it burne...

On Being a Dictator

Safiya Jafari Simmons | Posted 06.03.2014 | Religion
Safiya Jafari Simmons

When we presume to know how God will bless us or deliver our breakthrough, we go from asking of God to demanding of Him.

When Your Relationship Is Rocky, Look Right at Your Expectations

Michael S. Broder, Ph.D. | Posted 05.28.2014 | Healthy Living
Michael S. Broder, Ph.D.

One of the best ways to think of a relationship on the rocks is to reflect on your expectations for your relationship. What are they? What is it that you really want from your partner? What could your partner do now that would -- from your point of view -- make the relationship work again?

The Direct Path to Self-Awareness

Linda Bloom LCSW and Charlie Bloom MSW | Posted 05.27.2014 | Healthy Living
Linda Bloom LCSW and Charlie Bloom MSW

The hidden power of the shadow. "You can learn more about yourself in a week in a marriage than you can meditating for 10 years in a cave." -- Step...

Why, Oh Why, Can't Everyone Just Play Nicely in the Sandbox??

Nancy Lang | Posted 05.14.2014 | Divorce
Nancy Lang

This week has challenged my faith in the decency of humanity from a personal to an international level. Relating to each other with common courtesy an...

3 Ways To Start Defining Success On Your Own Terms

Amita Patel | Posted 05.11.2014 | Healthy Living
Amita Patel

Success has ups and downs. Facing your fears is the key to happiness. And real success involves defining it on your own terms. The need for a universal definition of success is what constantly keeps us in a state of lack. Finding true success requires honoring the parts of you that are different than everyone else.

Don't Set the Bar Too Low

Linda Bloom LCSW and Charlie Bloom MSW | Posted 04.15.2014 | Healthy Living
Linda Bloom LCSW and Charlie Bloom MSW

It is the path that insists that we awaken not only to our deepest desires and our deepest truths, but that we engage others in that same challenge: the pursuit of the fulfillment of what truly matters to us and the fulfillment of who we are as human beings.

On Being Radical

Safiya Jafari Simmons | Posted 04.05.2014 | Religion
Safiya Jafari Simmons

Timidity doesn't honor God. There, I said it. I've given a lot of thought to how often followers of Christ find themselves - or more accurately, place themselves - in the role of victim.

The Key to a Better Day? Stop Setting Yourself Up for a Miserable One

Deirdre Maloney | Posted 03.29.2014 | Healthy Living
Deirdre Maloney

Knowing your truths is the first step. Accepting them means a guaranteed better day. Figuring out how you'll manage them is how you make your life better and more successful in the long run.

Resolution 2014: Looking Into Your Own Heart

Luann Robinson Hull | Posted 03.24.2014 | Women
Luann Robinson Hull

What of just loving for the pure joy of loving without any expectation or attachment to how it's all going to work out? Is such an intention counterintuitive to our human nature?

U.S. Ski Racing Star Mikaela Shiffrin Says It Best: Embrace Adversity

Dr. Jim Taylor | Posted 03.16.2014 | Sports
Dr. Jim Taylor

With the 2014 Winter Olympics in Sochi, Russia approaching, more attention is being paid to the sports that don't get the attention they deserve during the three years between quadrennial competition. One such sport is alpine ski racing.

The Winter Addiction That Sparked A Family intervention

Rachael Stark | Posted 03.07.2014 | Fifty
Rachael Stark

I've found true love. My new boyfriend is dark, sleek, and zippers up the middle, just the way I like it. He doesn't need conversation or dinner. What's more he's Canadian and exotic. Just whisper his name 'Canada Goose' and I get going.

Plan (Un)Accordingly

Lindsay Henry | Posted 03.05.2014 | Women
Lindsay Henry

The change seems to always hit you where it hurts, that thing you weren't prepared for or expected, your Achilles heel. The career major, or the school, or the state you live in. The job. The person you date, the friends you make, the places you love. It all can change.

New Year's Resolutions: The 5 Mistakes to Avoid to Create Resolutions That Stick

Margie Warrell | Posted 02.26.2014 | Good News
Margie Warrell

Don't make your failings mean more than they do. Reflect on the lessons they hold, make adjustments accordingly, then tap your inner John Wayne and get back in the saddle. Life rewards those who work at it.

Results Matter, But to Get Them, Ignore Them

Dr. Jim Taylor | Posted 02.17.2014 | Sports
Dr. Jim Taylor

Of course, you need good results to be successful, but the question is how to go about getting those results and, ironically, the answer is not what parents, coaches, and athletes often think.

What Did You Expect?

Anna Musky-Goldwyn | Posted 02.12.2014 | Good News
Anna Musky-Goldwyn

It's been about coming to terms with that recently. That things really aren't going to play out as I expected they would.

Finding Love in Spite of...

Erin Havel | Posted 02.01.2014 | Healthy Living
Erin Havel

Young adult cancer is not something people dream of when they picture themselves in a romance. Illness, in general, is not socially considered a good stepping stone to finding a bright future relationship. For this couple, and for myself, though, that's exactly where love kicked in.

The One Piece Of Advice All Stepmoms Need To Hear

Peggy Nolan | Posted 01.23.2014 | Divorce
Peggy Nolan

Be yourself. Sounds pretty simple, right? This isn't just the best advice for stepmoms but for almost every woman who's trying to morph herself into the expectations she thinks other people have of her.

Living Abroad: A Reality Check

Michele Redmon | Posted 01.23.2014 | Travel
Michele Redmon

I pinned all my dissatisfaction on a place, only to discover that a world away the feeling remained because it was within, not around me. Letting go of the fantasy life I had promised myself was a bitter pill to swallow, but ultimately freed me from living in a state of suspended animation.

Mind Reading: Don't Try This at Home

Linda Bloom LCSW and Charlie Bloom MSW | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Linda Bloom LCSW and Charlie Bloom MSW

Even couples who have been together for decades don't possess the ability to read each others' minds. There are always (hopefully) going to be surprises in relationships which keeps things from getting too predictable and uninteresting.

Hey Kids! It Is Not Always About You!

Sharon Zuckerwar | Posted 12.29.2013 | Parents
Sharon Zuckerwar

While we work hard to engage in their lives, not every minute, every second has to be about them. Not every activity needs to revolve around them. Not every conversation is ok to be interrupted with their immediate need or want. And sometimes, sometimes, they have to learn how to wait.

What Messages are Your Expectations Sending to Your Children?

Dr. Jim Taylor | Posted 12.28.2013 | Parents
Dr. Jim Taylor

Setting expectations for your children is an essential responsibility of parenting. Expectations communicate messages to your children about what's im...