Turning 27 last month has put me in a weird headspace. It's a headspace where I'm thinking about things like 5-year plans and IRAs and making monthly budgets and getting a credit card with relevant airline miles. It's also a headspace where I'm looking at said credit card and thinking about how it would feel to put a cycle of egg freezing on it.
When it comes to taking full responsibility for your own experiences or taking none, there's a continuum. Some of us blame our circumstances and our feelings on the external world and other people. Some of us actually take too much responsibility for our "stuff." Despite my anecdotes above, I have realized I'm on the too much responsibility side of the continuum.
While the holidays can be a special time of year filled with joy and celebration with loved ones, it can prove especially difficult for those who long for a child. Since the holidays are often centered on family, it can be difficult to avoid the painful reminders that can surface during this time of year.