When it comes to taking full responsibility for your own experiences or taking none, there's a continuum. Some of us blame our circumstances and our feelings on the external world and other people. Some of us actually take too much responsibility for our "stuff." Despite my anecdotes above, I have realized I'm on the too much responsibility side of the continuum.
While the holidays can be a special time of year filled with joy and celebration with loved ones, it can prove especially difficult for those who long for a child. Since the holidays are often centered on family, it can be difficult to avoid the painful reminders that can surface during this time of year.