There are three different parts of you that need to align before you can be satisfied in love. They are (be prepared for a little vulgarity!) your head, your heart and your hoo-ha. The voices of these three are equally important to listen to, but they don't always work together!
Struggling to meet the right person and have a relationship that clicks for the long haul? You've dated enough to get a sense of what you're after, yet you keep coming up against the same relationship issues and beating your head against the wall.
So how does one move on, when the love of your life is gone, be it your husband or wife or another soul mate with whom you shared a life for many years or for several decades? In truth, you don't move on; the beloved is still inside you. You just make room in your life for a new relationship.
First, give up your self-defeating attitude. How many times a day do you look in the mirror and criticize yourself, saying things like, 'My butt looks too big in these pants,' 'I should really lose 10 pounds,' or 'My neck is awful'?
His profile had described his marital status as "separated," which I took to mean living separately. When the truth came out, that phrase actually meant that he and his wife sometimes "separated" when she was in the kitchen directing the staff while he was in the den writing to women.
So what if I may be one of the only single girls left in my bicoastal circles? I prefer to shuffle the stack until the right card is dealt, and then make the gamble. I don't want to settle for the next best thing. I want to strive for THE best thing.
Am I going to date forever? This is a question that date-fatigued boomer women frequently ask, sometimes right before deciding to quit dating. Although taking a break is a quick fix for date fatigue, the magnitude of boomer dating burnout warrants a discussion deeper than weariness.
Do you ever wonder whether or not a man you're dating is really into you? It seems like this should be obvious but sometimes it isn't. The lines can feel blurry, especially when you really like a man who seems perfect for you.
Love is an open door my friend, but you can only open the door when you open your mind, and your heart. So many of us are on the treadmill of dating, and we continually date the same people over and over again. Why? Because we're not clear on what we really want.
It's very hard to feel positive about dating if you're burned out. You don't have to deny that you're having a hard time. In fact, it's helpful to validate your own emotional experience, rather than beat yourself up for feeling down.
I'm certain this current attitude is a passing, yet necessary phase. Perhaps it's the realization that partnership is not the only means by which to experience love. To love oneself without the need of "another" to ignite that flame, is to own a love that's eternal.
Looking for love in all the wrong places? Valentine's Day is here again. Maybe we can help point you in the right direction. If you want to find your Second Act Soul Mate, you might have a better chance if you fish where the fish swim.