I often joke that our front door is a revolving one, as neighbor kids and my own children's friends seem to come and go, without invitation. This past Christmas time saw our home to 23 children in our home, on one particular day. I felt it was important to show my children that we care for all kids, regardless of background, shape, size, color or belief.
As a parent of over 50 children the past 18 years, through adoption, foster care, and my own biological children, each day is pretty busy for my wife and I. Visitations for my children from foster care with upset birth parents, untold amounts of doctor visits with sick children, homework, bath time, laundry for up to 11 kids at one time, and of course 75,982 diapers changed in 18 years (my best estimate!)
When couples look to adoption they sometimes wonder if they can love an adopted child as they do a biological one. The Rubels express while it has not been an easy road that there is no question of the love they have for the children. They are their children and that their love is unconditional for them.
The holiday season is upon us. Christmas, Hanukah, New Years, Kwanzaa; these are times that can be extremely difficult for many foster children. During this time of holiday cheer, many foster children are faced with the realization that they will not be "home for the holidays," so to speak, with their biological family members.
Foster families will say that making their loving family permanent through adoption provides them as many rewards as it provides to their child. Giving a child stability and love -- reading bedtime stories, tucking them into bed, cheering them on at sporting events or praising good grades -- showing love in ways large and small - means everything.