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7 Things You Should Never Say To A Foster Parent

Dr. John DeGarmo | Posted 02.07.2017 | Home
Dr. John DeGarmo

They are meant as words of comfort and words of support. However, so many times, the words are hurtful, instead. During my fifteen years as a foster...

Caring For Yourself As You Care For Children In Foster Care

Dr. John DeGarmo | Posted 01.27.2017 | Home
Dr. John DeGarmo

I needed this time alone, and I could tell right away that I would be better for it, and my family would benefit from it, as well.

Today's Youth Are Being Encouraged To Commit Suicide Through Social Media

Dr. John DeGarmo | Posted 01.25.2017 | Home
Dr. John DeGarmo

For many youth who suffer from abuse, neglect, and depression, they often feel that they have no control of their lives. Indeed, the only place these children often can gain some sort of control is online, usually through the means of social networking.

How To Help Your Own Children While Caring For Foster Children

Dr. John DeGarmo | Posted 01.24.2017 | Home
Dr. John DeGarmo

My children are a very important part of my foster parenting. Without them, my wife and I would not have been able to foster the forty plus children ...

How Foster Parenting Has Changed Me

Dr. John DeGarmo | Posted 01.05.2017 | Home
Dr. John DeGarmo

To my fellow foster parents, thank you for what you do. Thank you for making sacrifices in your own life to care for those in need. Thank you for loving children without abandon, and as family. Thank you for changing the lives of those in need. May your own lives be changed, as well.

10 New Year Resolutions For Foster Care

Dr. John DeGarmo | Posted 12.22.2016 | Home
Dr. John DeGarmo

With more children in foster care now than in years past, the foster care system in the United States is in need of attention, and in some ways, in ne...

Why The Holidays Might Be A Sad Time For Foster Children

Dr. John DeGarmo | Posted 12.02.2016 | Home
Dr. John DeGarmo

So many dates on the calendar, so many reasons to celebrate, so many different ways. Christmas, Hanukkah, New Years, Kwanzaa; these are times that can be extremely difficult for many foster children.

The Truth About Foster Parents

Dr. John DeGarmo | Posted 11.29.2016 | Home
Dr. John DeGarmo

The news isn't always good about foster parents like me.

Top 10 Ways To Change Foster Care

Dr. John DeGarmo | Posted 10.20.2016 | Home
Dr. John DeGarmo

I am often asked what I would like to see happen differently in the foster care system. With that in mind, I thought I might share my top 10 changes I would like to see happen in the foster care world.

Top 8 Ways To Help Your Foster Child In School

Dr. John DeGarmo | Posted 08.19.2016 | Home
Dr. John DeGarmo

School. For so many children, it is a place of learning, of laughter, and a place to make friends and form relationships. Not so for children in foster care. It is a very difficult place, where academic failure and behavior problems are the norm.

The Secret Language Of Emojis And Your Children

Dr. John DeGarmo | Posted 08.16.2016 | Home
Dr. John DeGarmo

Some emojis can be used to send harmful or threatening messages. For example, a simle picture, or an emoji, of a frog may mean that the person receiving the emoji is "ugly". An emoji of scissors might send the message that "I am going to cut you." An emoji of a man running followed by a bowling ball may mean "I am going to hit you."

Today Is The Day You Can Make A Difference In A Child's Life!

Dr. John DeGarmo | Posted 08.01.2016 | Home
Dr. John DeGarmo

As I opened the door to meet the newest members of my family, my heart immediately left me. It was late at night when the three children were placed ...

Reflections On A Composer's First Opera

New England Conservatory | Posted 07.25.2016 | Home
New England Conservatory

Opera is a fabulous teaching tool, but I don't identify with the fluffy, fantasy, or historic driven plots of many of the most popular operas. I appreciate it in its many forms, but not in this work.

You Are Being Called To Care For Children. Will You Answer?

Dr. John DeGarmo | Posted 07.08.2016 | Home
Dr. John DeGarmo

The four-year-old boy, suffering from so much pain in his life, smiled at me as I took his hand in mine. When I looked into my son from foster care's bright eyes, my own eyes began to fill with tears, and I was quickly reminded of the Bible verse, Matthew 25:35-36.

Will You Allow Your Heart To Break?

Dr. John DeGarmo | Posted 06.22.2016 | Home
Dr. John DeGarmo

I woke up from the dream in an agitated state. Sweat was dripping down the side of my face, despite the fact that the fan was on overhead. It was th...

Empower Your Teen | Posted 06.08.2016 | Home

Statistically, I am supposed to be dead, in jail, or homeless. At 14, I'd been kicked out of so many foster homes that it became a game to me. I acted out because I didn't trust anyone, and I didn't expect that to change any time soon. So, how come I didn't end up as yet another statistic? ONE. CARING. ADULT.

What You May Not Know About Children in Foster Care

Dr. John DeGarmo | Posted 06.03.2016 | Home
Dr. John DeGarmo

It was late, and I was at my desk in my library, doing some writing for an upcoming book. Earlier that afternoon, we had taken in three foster childr...

16 Ways We Can Pray for Children in Foster Care

Dr. John DeGarmo | Posted 05.23.2016 | Home
Dr. John DeGarmo

There are a number of ways we can pray for our foster children. We need to become prayer warriors for our foster children, lifting them up in prayer on a daily basis. Not only should we pray for the children, but our foster children's case workers also need prayer

What You Need to be Teaching Your Child Today

Dr. John DeGarmo | Posted 05.13.2016 | Home
Dr. John DeGarmo

When many of our children go online today, this lesson of etiquette is often forgotten. For many children in foster care, lessons of etiquette were never taught to begin with.

A Call to Action

Marian Wright Edelman | Posted 05.09.2016 | Home
Marian Wright Edelman

In New York City, over 150,000 children under five are poor. Last year, nearly 20,000 of these children slept in homeless shelters - enough to fill Madison Square Garden. From the moment they're born, children in poverty face an uphill struggle to survive, thrive and learn with so many odds stacked against them.

Stories of Mother Love

Marian Wright Edelman | Posted 05.07.2016 | Home
Marian Wright Edelman

As we celebrate mothers and grandmothers, foster mothers, and all those who step in to parent children in need, let's pledge to take responsibility not only for our own children and grandchildren but for all children, or at least for one child who may not be our own.

Bring Me Hope: Foster Parenting Through Tough Times

Terra Trevor | Posted 05.05.2016 | Home
Terra Trevor

For older kids who have experienced much loss, those losses and abandonment issues will surface at holidays, on anniversaries, and at other times when we least expect it. Marker events bring out an old sadness and it gets mixed up in our current family life, and masked sadness often surfaces as anger.

What You Can Do To Help A Child in Need. Right Now! Today!

Dr. John DeGarmo | Posted 05.05.2016 | Home
Dr. John DeGarmo

I get it. Not everyone can be a foster parent. I certainly understand. As one who has been a foster parent for over 50 children the past 13 years, ...

Bringing Hope To Children Who Have None

Dr. John DeGarmo | Posted 04.22.2016 | Home
Dr. John DeGarmo

Did you know that many children in foster care have never had a birthday celebrated in their name? Are you aware that hundreds of thousands of foster children have never had a present to open on Christmas day? This reality, alone, makes me sad.

What I Wish Others Knew About Love and Children in Foster Care

Dr. John DeGarmo | Posted 04.12.2016 | Home
Dr. John DeGarmo

In my home, there is no difference. There is no difference between biological, adoptive, or foster child. There are no labels, either. They are all ...