In a city where there are millions of people who can cross your path at any moment, I can't help but feel extremely lonely sometimes. To feel alone would be one thing, but to feel lonely holds a much different set of emotions. I yearn for the companionship of someone who likes me, and maybe even loves me.
When Michael Coulter left Flint, Michigan, and went to college, he "met more gay people in one hour" than he had in his entire life. But there was one who caught his eye, and that boy would become his first love. As the school year continued, Michael's feelings only grew stronger, and with summer break approaching, he felt like he was ready to share his feelings.
In my latest video on relationships, I speak about how to effectively figure out when it's time to move on from a relationship and how to do it in the name of love. I describe how we can know where our stuff ends and our partner's begins, as well as the unique challenges that can come up for gay men when it comes to drawing the distinction.
After 28 years together Kim and Renate celebrated their legal marriage in the fall of 2013 and remain passionately thoughtful and engaged in questions of coming out, falling in love and helping couples move from the first blush, butterflies and excitement of a new relationship to the mutual respect, understanding and intimacy that grows after years of togetherness.