As LGBT youth, adults and families know all too well, bullying isn't confined to just the playground, classroom, or cafeteria -- it can happen to anyone, anywhere. And as my wife and I prepare for the birth of our first child, we have to learn when negative actions become a teaching moment.
B-Man leans forward and whispers in my ear, "When we were writing '-ay' words on our spelling boards today, someone wrote 'gay' and circled it as their favorite word. But someone else said 'gay' was a bad word. But it isn't, right?"
When people -- especially the politically jejune -- see "cool" anarchist groups like Anonymous using language that is the very definition of hate speech, won't the assumption be that it's OK to use it? It's not. And claiming these words aren't offensive is itself offensive.
For over a year I researched the words that people use to describe gay men -- words like "faggot," "pillow biter," "queer," "gym bunny," "bear," "twink," "homosexual" and even "gay" -- to get at the heart of the assumptions that people make about us.
Gay youths are still ending their lives over the pain of being called this word. If society is outdated, and we need to move past slurs, why would society want to take back the "f word" instead of erasing it from our venacular?