Throughout history, dominant groups have depicted or represented minority groups in a variety of negative ways in order to maintain control or mastery. I have found many clear and stunning connections between historical representations of LGBT people and Jewish people.
While many of us LGBTQ people use our gaydar in a tongue-and-cheek way to poke fun at each other, or to brag about our accuracy in spotting each other, we're basing these assumptions on socially constructed signifiers that are also used to discriminate against us.
What happens when both bully and victim are openly, vociferously interested in sleeping with members of their own gender? And what if, tracking the very topic of membership, one man says that another is "the wrong kind of gay"?
Since long before biblical references to Abraham, men have engaged in sexual relations outside the confines of marriage, but I am continually struck by the charge that ensuring marriage equality for same-sex couples will cheapen the institution of marriage.
Community should know better. In fact, it usually does. That's why I catalogue Harmon's apology as a likely first: a consensus that these stereotypes aren't outright offensive, just indicative of sub-par television writing.
Not long ago I was introduced to a few staff members at my publisher's offices as the author of a book on gay and lesbian manners. Without missing a beat, two staffers jumped in: "I thought all gay people have good manners!"
I previewed CNN's first episode of their new Gay in America series: Gary & Tony Have A Baby. the documentary goes so far beyond the usual mass media dreck that GLAAD should issue an action alert about it for perpetuating gay stereotypes.