Gender has always been on my mind -- or in my face -- whether I like it or not. As a budding feminist and then a young lesbian with short hair, I was called "Sir" on more than one occasion. I didn't like it, but was happy to have the privileges that being perceived as male brought. I am over six feet tall and trained as a martial artist.
I set out to write a book to shift the narrative of the gay community and the church. Instead, I ended up writing a different story. After broader exposure to the vast challenges standing in the way of achieving the true definition of equality, the novel aims to shift the narrative of women, the LGBT community, and the determination we all need to achieve real and concrete progress for both.
From California to Missouri to New York, structural oppression exists in every educational institution across the United States. It cannot be placed on a handful of people making prejudiced comments or simply pinned on outwardly racist, sexist, classist or homophobic actions. Systematic oppression is reflected in both the explicit actions of some and the implicit actions of many.
Feeling and showing gratitude in relationships go a long way in building and maintaining positive, mutually supportive connections. In my view, this study links with other patterns common to couples who sustain positive connection. For example, what I've described in another article about "radical transparency."