Mother's Day is difficult for those of us who have lost our mothers, either through death, estrangement, or other reasons. It's difficult for those who deal with infertility and Mother's Day is just a reminder of what we don't have. It's difficult for those who have lost children and it's a day that reminds us we used to have.
One of my father's greatest desires was always to travel and see the world, and yet he could never master his fear of the unknown. Many of the qualities that make travel one of the great loves of my life were the very things that filled him with dread. I find myself wondering if I travel so much as a direct rebellion against his own fears and worries?
While we waited for the medicine to take effect, we held her paws and stroked her head and speculated on what Mishka's heaven would look like -- a beautiful park with her old friend Abby waiting for her, unlimited belly rubs, and Christmas trees with untended boxes of candy and defrosting steaks just waiting for her to steal.
The Internet is a place, just as real as your favorite coffee shop or local bar, where we can stop by and catch up with friends as often or infrequently as we want. We can use social media to make arrangements to meet in real life, or simply hang out online. Life can be lonely, but the way we connect with people is evolving.
So how do I or anyone else who has had a loss get through the holidays? A simple way is to bake or cook something that your loved one made. In fact, Susan's Cincinnati family held a carrot cake bake-off on Thanksgiving in her memory. Everyone put on blindfolds as they taste-tested Susan's cake and other carrot cakes -- one from a renowned bakery. While Susan's cake didn't win, the activity certainly kept her memory alive!