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What Not To Say During Times Of Loss

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 07.27.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

At one time or another, most of us have been in the position of providing sympathy, comfort and encouragement to someone who has experienced a loss. Unfortunately, not everyone offers support in a way that is sympathetic, comforting or encouraging (and in some cases, not even positive).

Grief Differs From Depression: Our Mental Health Guidelines Should Clarify, Not Distort

Jeanne Dennis | Posted 07.22.2013 | Healthy Living
Jeanne Dennis

By removing the "bereavement exclusion" from what had been considered the bible of the mental health world, the DSM's editors risk undermining bereavement as a universal, normal, if profoundly painful, experience.

Why There Is No Such Thing As 'Getting Over' Your Spouse's Death

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 07.13.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

Sometimes I feel really sorry for my family. They are the unfortunate souls who have to listen to my bellyaching on any given day.

When's The 'Right' Time To Go Through Your Late Spouse's Things?

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 06.22.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

The answer to the question of when you should begin the intensely personal part of your Healing Journey known as the 'go-through' is quite simple.

The One Thing You Should Never Say To The Widowed

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 05.18.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

Although it may be tempting to do otherwise, do not choose to dwell on the unfairness of your widowhood. The unfairness is a given, however dwelling on the unfairness will not take you in the healing direction that you wish to travel.

Is There A Right Way To Grieve?

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 03.30.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

I have always taken great umbrage at anyone criticizing, questioning or opining on how the widowed handle their grief and their highly individual and intensely personal healing journeys. Unfortunately, there seems to be a lot of it going on.

The Six Steps Those Widowed Should Take

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 02.16.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

In what is known as Widowed World, widowhood is defined as: 'A club that absolutely no one willingly joins; a state of existence that will upend your life as you knew it and forever change the rest of your life from what you had previously and carefully designed into a scary and uncertain future.'

Blue Christmas: 6 Ways for Grievers to Navigate the Holidays

Ashley Davis Bush, LCSW | Posted 02.13.2013 | Healthy Living
Ashley Davis Bush, LCSW

Lights, music, festivities, and feasts all around -- but if you're grieving the loss of a loved one, it is anything but "the most wonderful time of the year." If you're grieving and are wondering how you'll survive the season, use the following six suggestions to ease the way.

My Grief Can Beat Your Grief: A 'Widow-Tude' Adjustment (Part 2)

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 02.02.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

The moment has arrived to call a time-out in the game of "My Pain is Worse Than Your Pain." It is indeed time for a Widow-tude Adjustment; both within and outside the widowed community.

Critics, Critics Everywhere

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 12.22.2012 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

No one has the right to criticize how anyone suffering a loss handles anything -- from whether or not they visit a gravesite (be it sooner, later or ever) to a decision to sell everything that they own and sail around the world.

Grieving Before Graduating

Laura March | Posted 07.30.2012 | College
Laura March

Grief is not an emotion I expected to experience in college. I struggled to discuss my feelings with classmates who had never considered their parents' mortality.

Movies That Help Parents and Children Understand Grief and Loss

Jeanne Dennis | Posted 05.16.2012 | Parents
Jeanne Dennis

Movies are a wonderful way to begin a discussion. With children, especially little kids, it gives them an emotional vocabulary. How does this character feel -- happy, sad, confused. Here's a list of movies and five guided discussion topics.

What Not to Say to a Griever (And What You Should Say or Do Instead)

Ashley Davis Bush, LCSW | Posted 05.14.2012 | Healthy Living
Ashley Davis Bush, LCSW

Grief is one of the most universal of human experiences. Virtually every single person you know, including yourself, will eventually lose a loved one.

The Grieving Garden: Simple Ways to Cope With Trauma and Loss

Leann Reynolds | Posted 05.14.2012 | Healthy Living
Leann Reynolds

Finding solace in ordinary tasks like gardening and organizing can be very comforting and even therapeutic when people are grieving, whether it is the death of a loved one or the loss of someone to a life-altering illness such as dementia.

When Does Grief Become Mental Illness?

Joseph Nowinski, Ph.D. | Posted 03.27.2012 | Healthy Living
Joseph Nowinski, Ph.D.

We should continue our cultural tradition of recognizing grief as a normal (and expected) human experience. If anything, the grieving person may benefit from support and sympathy, rather than being diagnosed as mentally ill and treated as such.

Confronting a Terminal Diagnosis as a Family

Joseph Nowinski, Ph.D. | Posted 03.19.2012 | Healthy Living
Joseph Nowinski, Ph.D.

The challenges that families must face when confronted with a terminal diagnosis of a loved one are complex. They include evolving new structures and dynamics as the person they love slowly slips away.

Life Lessons From Loved Ones We Lost In 2011

The Huffington Post | Alana B. Elias Kornfeld | Posted 12.28.2011 | Healthy Living

As the year draws to a close, it's only natural to reflect back on the events that had the biggest impact on our lives. For me, it was the loss of my ...

Mastering The Anniversary Reaction On Christmas

Matthew D. Erlich, M.D. | Posted 02.24.2012 | Healthy Living
Matthew D. Erlich, M.D.

Dec. 25 and many other holiday or "anniversary" dates can be highly significant. These include birthdays, marital anniversaries and days when loved ones died. This phenomenon, often deeply painful, is called an "Anniversary Reaction."

Losing and Regaining My Sense of Being

Robert D. Stolorow | Posted 02.15.2012 | Healthy Living
Robert D. Stolorow

When my traumatized states could not find a hospitable relational home or context of human understanding, I became deadened, and my world became dulled. When such a home became once again present, I came alive, and the vividness of my world returned.

The New Grief: Reaching Out Through The Internet

Joseph Nowinski, Ph.D. | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Joseph Nowinski, Ph.D.

The ongoing development of sophisticated medical diagnostic and treatment technologies has led to what I have termed "the new grief." It represents a crisis that may ebb and flow in intensity over time.

How Did Grief Get an Expiration Date?

Lynne Hughes | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Lynne Hughes

I've heard time and time again there is a societal expectation to "get over" grief in six months, and at the longest, a year.

Childhood Loss: The Untold Burden

Lynne Hughes | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Lynne Hughes

Death? How did that get in there? It is not an image that comes to mind when you think of childhood. And yet it is a part of childhood much more often than commonly thought.

Share in Grief: When a Friend Loses a Child

Deborah Schoeberlein David | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Deborah Schoeberlein David

We often keep a distance due to our own discomfort and a genuine fear of trespassing on mourners' privacy. But giving people space can lead to withholding the human nourishment we all crave.