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Rules at Impact: How to Survive Early Grief

Megan Devine | Posted 03.02.2014 | Healthy Living
Megan Devine

It's true that unexpected death messes with your world in a way few things can. Adding to this list, or creating a whole new one of your own, might give you just the tiniest roadmap inside a wholly disorienting time.

10 Must-Have New Year Resolutions for the Widowed

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 02.23.2014 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

It's that time of year again. We are all getting peppered and pelted with those endless ads and commercials designed to help you "start the New Yea...

Waiting With Ellie

Jessica Braun | Posted 02.22.2014 | Women
Jessica Braun

Ellie has spent most of her life waiting patiently. But this time, she is the one who will go first. And while she waits, we will wait with her.

Designing Good-Bye

Kristen Noel | Posted 02.22.2014 | Healthy Living
Kristen Noel

At 3:09 a.m. on December 11, 2013, Lisa exited this life. We had said all there was to say. We had designed our good-bye. She is my reminder to remain present.

Have You Been the News? When Private Pain Is a Public Spectacle.

Megan Devine | Posted 02.22.2014 | Impact
Megan Devine

We see too much suffering. We see too much suffering, forgetting that it is, in fact, suffering. It's not entertainment. It's not "news." It's pain.

6 Important Ways For The Widowed To Facilitate Healing

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 02.22.2014 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

Because those of us who either are or ever have been a part of Widowed World not only understand... we will never disappear.

Rules for Grieving in the New Year -- Or Grieving Like It's 1999

J Mase III | Posted 02.19.2014 | Healthy Living
J Mase III

After the barrage of federal and religious holidays plaguing the fall and winter seasons, many of us dealing with grief are wiped out. So, as I have fended off yet another Christmas mall elf and set my kinara, I've decided next year I will choose to grieve better.

Farmer Gives Bull AIDS

Matthew Ebert | Posted 02.19.2014 | Gay Voices
Matthew Ebert

When Antonio's eyes closed for good last fall, mine opened wide and saw the light. There is so much work yet to be done, not only here on the farm but in the streets of your town. The hearts and minds of all those at risk must be won over, or they too will become someone else's grief.

Finding Room For Joy When Everything Has Changed

Kathy Glow | Posted 02.19.2014 | Parents
Kathy Glow

Those of us who grieve deeply never get over it. We live our lives with it, we manage it. But during certain times of the year, the management is much harder. And the grief will swallow us if we're not careful.

"Muddling Through" the Wilderness at Christmas

Rev. Michelle L. Torigian | Posted 02.19.2014 | Religion
Rev. Michelle L. Torigian

Yet, as we muddle through this season, there may be moments when we can begin to see the first rays of dawn. Maybe we begin to observe a few beams of light trickling into a shadow-filled room.

Mom's Fur Coat

Mindy Trotta | Posted 02.18.2014 | Women
Mindy Trotta

Mom's fur coat had been hanging in my closet ever since I moved her out to California six months before she died. When we want to get our coats out, we push it to the right, and when we want to get our luggage, we push it to the left. We have been pushing that coat back and forth for 10 years.

Threads in a Blanket: Creativity and Healing in the Face of Violence

Vanessa Contopulos | Posted 02.18.2014 | Arts
Vanessa Contopulos

A small group of artists and leaders in the field of peacebuilding came together to reflect on the roots of compassionate presence. As they shared their stories, I was struck by the way artists shine a light on what might be, even in the midst of bleak violence.

Merry? Happy? Perhaps Not for Those Who Are Grieving

Fredda Wasserman | Posted 02.17.2014 | Impact
Fredda Wasserman

As we move through the holiday season and head into the New Year, our society sends the message loud and clear: this is a time to rejoice, spread good...

7 Mistakes People Make When A Friend's Child Dies

Suzanne Leigh | Posted 02.17.2014 | Parents
Suzanne Leigh

A therapist or psychiatrist may or may not be helpful to a bereaved parent. But a friend who can listen generously and non-judgmentally, recognizing that there is no "fix" for this tragedy, will probably be greatly valued.

Over the River and Through the Woods: Passing Through Pain

Bridget Fonger | Posted 02.17.2014 | Healthy Living
Bridget Fonger

The holidays have a way of triggering old pain points, particularly around the loss of loved ones. I am currently surrounded by several people who h...

A Prayer for Peace

Nancy Sharp | Posted 02.15.2014 | World
Nancy Sharp

Might we put aside our frustrations and be gentle with our children? Might we have real conversations about values? Might we all just stop and breathe and think about peace in our lives and peace in our world?

Make a Promise Today for Sandy Hook... for Good

Dr. Karin Luise | Posted 02.14.2014 | Healthy Living
Dr. Karin Luise

We need to love our children without taking the miracle of their lives for granted. We need be present to their warm, silly joy when it passes by us on the street. We should look them in the eyes with gentle sincerity, letting them know that they matter and that we are so very glad that they are here.

A Short List for Grief and the Holidays

The Rev. Sue Wintz | Posted 02.12.2014 | Healthy Living
The Rev. Sue Wintz

For those who are dealing with acute grief, remember that they are probably living in a fog: nothing seems real because of the shock that grief causes. The holidays are probably the last thing on their mind, and if they are, there can be a sense of panic over what to do next.

The Last Time I Saw Ben Wheeler

Christopher Murray | Posted 02.12.2014 | Gay Voices
Christopher Murray

The last time I saw Ben Wheeler, he and his big brother Nate were eating chocolate-chip pancakes and being terribly silly. Nine months after the pancake breakfast, I got a strange voicemail: There had been another school shooting, this time in Connecticut.

Gift to the Soul: The Space of Presence

Tara Brach | Posted 02.10.2014 | Healthy Living
Tara Brach

For many of us this is a season when it feels that we are going faster and faster. Everything's racing, through school semesters, wrapping up work com...

How Can We Really Help Our Children With Loss?

Felice Shapiro | Posted 02.10.2014 | Fifty
Felice Shapiro

Wakes, funerals and shivas are traditions for family to receive friends so they can say goodbye. And when they are over, what remains is a profoundly quiet, difficult road with no road map.

Why We Need To Change Our Approach To Grief

Megan Devine | Posted 02.10.2014 | Healthy Living
Megan Devine

The stages of grief were not meant to tell you what you feel, what you should feel, and when exactly you should feel it. They were not meant to dictate whether you are doing your grief "correctly" or not. They were meant to normalize a deeply not-normal time.

Home Is Where the Heart Is, and the Heart Never Really Leaves home

Sue Shanahan | Posted 02.09.2014 | Parents
Sue Shanahan

The arms of love encompass you with your present, your past, your future, the arms of love gather you together. -Antoine de Saint-Exupéry The co...

Coping With Loss of Loved Ones Through Theratainment

Tara Fass | Posted 02.08.2014 | Entertainment
Tara Fass

The holidays can come loaded with affect for those who've had someone close to them die. More upsetting can be a recent loss, one which occurred around the holidays, or the first anniversary with a glaring non-attendance. Let's turn to film, television, and books with topics of grief and loss at their core.

8 Tips For Handling The Holiday Blues

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 02.08.2014 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

Many who are in the midst of loss or life challenges at this time of year have questions about coping with the holidays. How do you handle the holidays; especially if you don't feel like handling them at all? Read on for answers and a few great holiday suggestions: