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When the Holidays Hurt: A Letter to Those Who Are Still Finding Their Way Home

Khristi Adams | Posted 11.24.2015 | Religion
Khristi Adams

It wasn't a shelter that I happened to pass or a donate button that I was asked to click, but rather it all started when I was sitting in a room full ...

Grief and the Terrible Holiday Season

Megan Devine | Posted 11.24.2015 | Healthy Living
Megan Devine

Part of your family wants traditions to stay exactly the same, others want to change everything. Conflicting desires, broken hearts, lots of attention when you'd rather just hide in your blanket fort until the whole thing is over -- it's too much.

You Will Always Be A Mom

Sara Lindberg | Posted 11.19.2015 | Parents
Sara Lindberg

I've watched you continue on. You teach other peoples children. I watch you treat them with a unique kindness, only known to moms who have lost a child. Someone once said that being a mom is loving your children more than you've ever loved yourself. You are a true testament to that love.

Grieving For Pairs Is Not About Political Correctness

BJ Gallagher | Posted 11.17.2015 | Politics
BJ Gallagher

There are those who scold us for our outpouring of grief in the wake of the Nov. 13 terrorist attacks on Paris. They try to make us feel guilty for not demonstrating the same grief over the slaughter in Beirut, Lebanon, just a day earlier, or the massacre in Kenya. Political correctness has no place in matters of the heart.

Who Will Zip Up My Dress Now That I'm A Widow?

Laurie Burrows Grad | Posted 10.24.2015 | Fifty
Laurie Burrows Grad

Grief has changed my life forever. I am not the person I was three months ago. What existed in my life before my husband Peter died has been suddenly altered. Nothing is the same, nor will it ever be so. What was important to me before is meaningless now.

A Letter To My Dearly Departed Husband Peter

Laurie Burrows Grad | Posted 10.11.2015 | Fifty
Laurie Burrows Grad

My grief therapist says I should write to you. So I am writing a letter to you like a kid writes to Santa. The letter will never reach its recipient, but the writing is therapeutic. Maybe you will send me a message from the North Pole or wherever you are that you are OK?

The One's That Are Gone

Erin Musto | Posted 09.22.2015 | Parents
Erin Musto

Our amazing people existed and took a piece of our hearts, they helped build us; we are who we are because of what they built and what we lost with them. Grief is a gift most of all because it reminds us that they were here.

I Lost My Spouse A Month Ago And The Pain Is Unimaginable

Laurie Burrows Grad | Posted 09.22.2015 | Fifty
Laurie Burrows Grad

One month ago, Peter, my husband of 47 years, died of a heart attack. When you lose a parent, you have siblings or family members to comfort you. When you lose a spouse, you lose your life partner and are alone. The hardest thing about grief is to see life going on.

We Don't Get to Pick the Hard Stuff

Erin Musto | Posted 09.10.2015 | Parents
Erin Musto

While driving home today, my 6- and 7-year-old daughters opened up about many hurts in their hearts. I have found that car rides are the safest place, to them, to open up and chat. In this conversation there was much talk of divorce and missing their family.

Yes, Divorce Is a Failed Marriage and That's Okay!

Laura Lifshitz | Posted 09.09.2015 | Divorce
Laura Lifshitz

Think about something you're great at -- whether it's a hobby, passion or a job. Did you start out rocking it? Or did you make a few stumbles and hit a few rough patches before reaching stride? Think about what you learned from each mistake. Each downfail. Each god-awful yet lesson-rich failure.

Penciling in Hope: Life After Suffering a Suicide Loss

Christy Heitger-Ewing | Posted 08.25.2015 | Healthy Living
Christy Heitger-Ewing

While I have no plans to live on Mars, I would like to start living more fully on planet Earth. I'm sure I'll still have to "take a minute" from time to time as my head and my heart continue to sync up. But in the meantime, I'd like to work on getting back to looking forward. I'd like to pencil in some hope.

Your Pain Isn't Your Fault: Why Some Teachers and Gurus Have It Wrong

Megan Devine | Posted 08.24.2015 | Healthy Living
Megan Devine

Pain simply is. It's a natural, normal response to loss. But the literature in the self-help world, in the therapy world, and sadly, yes even in the world of spiritual guidance, is heavy on blame. Grief is considered unhealthy. A "bad" experience.

Explaining the Unexplainable Pain of Losing a Pet

Jill Sullivan Grueter | Posted 08.12.2015 | Impact
Jill Sullivan Grueter

Saying goodbye to Killian was one of the most painful days of my life -- a tie with losing my dad. We were lucky to give Killian a dignified, peaceful way to Heaven. Even though I still feel him with me when I need him most, the pain is so gut-wrenching and the grief is so real.

We All Grieve in Different Ways on Different Days

The University of Central Florida Forum | Posted 08.05.2015 | GPS for the Soul
The University of Central Florida Forum

By Traci Evison UCF Forum columnist Over the course of the past 2½ years I found myself in a position I never dreamed possible: Three of my immediat...

The Remarkable Way One Young Widow Is Redefining Grief

Abby Rodman, LICSW | Posted 08.03.2015 | Fifty
Abby Rodman, LICSW

Melissa doesn't believe that God or The Universe owed her something as precious and precarious as her husband's health. She accepts that life, often, is a crapshoot. And sometimes you get lucky, and sometimes you simply don't. And sometimes you get a mix -- and that's what Melissa got and she's grateful for it.

Outside In

Nicola Kraus | Posted 07.28.2015 | GPS for the Soul
Nicola Kraus

In the blurry days after my mom died people who had been through the loss of a parent consistently advised, "You need to rest." I nodded, not taking in their words anymore than I was able to take in that this was really happening.

Saying Goodbye To My Companion Of 42 Years... My Dryer

Inga | Posted 07.26.2015 | Fifty

Last week, my 42-year-old dryer gave up the ghost, mid-load. Worse, I think I killed it. I put a wet heavy blanket in it and turned it on to the high cycle, something I've done numerous times before. But under the strain, its aged heart, er, power relay, gave out and it tumbled its last. Services are pending.

4 Reasons to Stop Saying RIP

Julie Gray | Posted 07.13.2015 | Entertainment
Julie Gray

Rest in peace? Who wants to rest in peace and moulder in a grave? I hope Omar Sharif is doing the tango right now somewhere, with a rose clenched in his teeth and a glint in his eye.

You May Be Surprised That the Love Never Dies

Lacey Johnson | Posted 07.10.2015 | Women
Lacey Johnson

Once you deeply love someone, the love can never be gone. It does not die. It does not dissipate or cease to exist. It may be temporarily forgotten, it may go into hibernation, it may transcend, it may be tucked away in order to make room in your heart for new people to love, but it never dies.

Father's Day: Long After Dad Is Gone

Rabbi Baruch HaLevi | Posted 06.17.2015 | Parents
Rabbi Baruch HaLevi

I do not need the cards. I do not need the presents. I do not need the attention. However, contrary to popular belief, or what Hallmark wants you to think, Father's Day isn't about me.

Astoria Characters: The Woman Wiping Tears From Her Eyes

Nancy Ruhling | Posted 06.16.2015 | New York
Nancy Ruhling

Ann Kos cannot meet you at the front door. She lives on the middle floor of her three-family house, and she can't go up and down the stairs any more without a chaperone.

The Light in Sheryl Sandberg's Post on Grief

Donna Mebane | Posted 06.10.2015 | Healthy Living
Donna Mebane

Given the insights that Sheryl has already found and so generously shared, I have little doubt that, despite the utter depletion that her grief has caused, she will continue to regain her amazing strength over time in new and significant ways.

A Bullet Point Checklist For Those Grieving After Divorce

Laura Lifshitz | Posted 06.04.2015 | Divorce
Laura Lifshitz

Grieving a divorce can take six months for one person and six years for the other. It's a personal journey and no one really has all the answers. Just do your best to keep your head above waters and hope for the best. It's all we have sometimes -- hope.

What You Can't Tell From Looking At My Pregnant Belly

Ravishly | Posted 06.05.2015 | Parents

I don't feel the ultimate rush of happiness when someone wants to know all about this baby I hold my breath for. I often just feel like crying. I don't know how to tell them our story without having to face their fears, too. You are my worst nightmare, their eyes tell me. I know.

The Truth About Sex And The Grieving Widower

Sienna Jae Fein | Posted 05.29.2015 | Fifty
Sienna Jae Fein

Women who date widowers are sometimes stunned when an actively grieving man presses eagerly for sex. Our culture mandates no 'correct' grieving process, and grieving is unique to every individual, but most experts agree that men and women mourn in different ways.