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Nicola Kraus | Posted 07.28.2015 | GPS for the Soul
Nicola Kraus

In the blurry days after my mom died people who had been through the loss of a parent consistently advised, "You need to rest." I nodded, not taking in their words anymore than I was able to take in that this was really happening.

Saying Goodbye To My Companion Of 42 Years... My Dryer

Inga | Posted 07.26.2015 | Fifty
Inga

Last week, my 42-year-old dryer gave up the ghost, mid-load. Worse, I think I killed it. I put a wet heavy blanket in it and turned it on to the high cycle, something I've done numerous times before. But under the strain, its aged heart, er, power relay, gave out and it tumbled its last. Services are pending.

4 Reasons to Stop Saying RIP

Julie Gray | Posted 07.13.2015 | Entertainment
Julie Gray

Rest in peace? Who wants to rest in peace and moulder in a grave? I hope Omar Sharif is doing the tango right now somewhere, with a rose clenched in his teeth and a glint in his eye.

You May Be Surprised That the Love Never Dies

Lacey Johnson | Posted 07.10.2015 | Women
Lacey Johnson

Once you deeply love someone, the love can never be gone. It does not die. It does not dissipate or cease to exist. It may be temporarily forgotten, it may go into hibernation, it may transcend, it may be tucked away in order to make room in your heart for new people to love, but it never dies.

Father's Day: Long After Dad Is Gone

Rabbi Baruch HaLevi | Posted 06.17.2015 | Parents
Rabbi Baruch HaLevi

I do not need the cards. I do not need the presents. I do not need the attention. However, contrary to popular belief, or what Hallmark wants you to think, Father's Day isn't about me.

Astoria Characters: The Woman Wiping Tears From Her Eyes

Nancy Ruhling | Posted 06.16.2015 | New York
Nancy Ruhling

Ann Kos cannot meet you at the front door. She lives on the middle floor of her three-family house, and she can't go up and down the stairs any more without a chaperone.

The Light in Sheryl Sandberg's Post on Grief

Donna Mebane | Posted 06.10.2015 | Healthy Living
Donna Mebane

Given the insights that Sheryl has already found and so generously shared, I have little doubt that, despite the utter depletion that her grief has caused, she will continue to regain her amazing strength over time in new and significant ways.

A Bullet Point Checklist For Those Grieving After Divorce

Laura Lifshitz | Posted 06.04.2015 | Divorce
Laura Lifshitz

Grieving a divorce can take six months for one person and six years for the other. It's a personal journey and no one really has all the answers. Just do your best to keep your head above waters and hope for the best. It's all we have sometimes -- hope.

What You Can't Tell From Looking At My Pregnant Belly

Ravishly | Posted 06.05.2015 | Parents
Ravishly

I don't feel the ultimate rush of happiness when someone wants to know all about this baby I hold my breath for. I often just feel like crying. I don't know how to tell them our story without having to face their fears, too. You are my worst nightmare, their eyes tell me. I know.

The Truth About Sex And The Grieving Widower

Sienna Jae Fein | Posted 05.29.2015 | Fifty
Sienna Jae Fein

Women who date widowers are sometimes stunned when an actively grieving man presses eagerly for sex. Our culture mandates no 'correct' grieving process, and grieving is unique to every individual, but most experts agree that men and women mourn in different ways.

Memorial Day, or National Grief Acknowledgement Day?

Megan Devine | Posted 05.21.2015 | Impact
Megan Devine

In a sense, Memorial Day weekend should usher this country into the griever's world: The every day reality of grief. Memorial Day should (or could) be a time when the whole nation bows its collective head to its collective heart, and says: Ow. Ow. OW. This hurts.

Don't Tell Me I'm Lucky To Have A 'Good' Divorce

Laura Lifshitz | Posted 05.20.2015 | Divorce
Laura Lifshitz

Everyone tells me how lucky I am to have the best divorce ever. Lucky my ex is a good dad. Lucky my ex and I are not psychopaths. Lucky we get along. In general, everyone is so happy... Except for us.

Pushing Humpty Dumpty Off The Wall

Mina Samuels | Posted 05.19.2015 | Women
Mina Samuels

I hugged them and kissed them, these dolls I'd barely touched for more than 30 years. Finally, I went and got one of my father's shirts. I swaddled them in his shirt, added some pictures of myself as a child, closed up the bag, collected myself and took the bag out to the garage.

The Death of the Superhero: 5 Ways to Cope With Loss

John Cordray | Posted 05.12.2015 | Healthy Living
John Cordray

It is so profoundly difficult to move forward after our superhero dies, but it is possible to live life again. You'll always have a hole in your heart from your loss, but you'll make it -- you'll even be happy again.

Remembering Mom

Beth Bernstein | Posted 05.06.2015 | Fifty
Beth Bernstein

My mother had an eye for fashion and an innate sense of taste. I had the most fun dressing up next to her, first in her jewelry and clothes, as a young girl and then helping each other get ready for an important meeting or date.

For Better or Worse: A 25th Anniversary Love Letter to My Dead Husband

Kindness Blog | Posted 05.05.2015 | Good News
Kindness Blog

I feel as if our life's story has been ripped in half. The latter chapters were snatched away and callously thrown into the wind. I've tried to recapture some of the pages, frantically grasping whatever I could as they whirled about.

Mother's Day After Losing a Child

Phyllis Sudman | Posted 05.05.2015 | Parents
Phyllis Sudman

I never got to celebrate a Mother's Day with Simon. He arrived just before Thanksgiving and left right after the New Year. However, the legacy he left for our family and others will forever be celebrated and cherished on days like Sunday.

Gratitude And Grief

Owen Griffith | Posted 06.17.2015 | Fifty
Owen Griffith

In my life, one of the people I am most grateful for is my oldest brother Steve. Steve was a musician, a naturalist and poet. He taught me how to play guitar, took me back-packing, encouraged me to read great literature, like Moby Dick, and inspired me to write.

On This Day -- An Open Letter to Facebook

Daniela Tempesta, LCSW | Posted 06.15.2015 | Technology
Daniela Tempesta, LCSW

I imagine you thought it would be fun for people to see what they were up to one year ago today and perhaps even insightful to have the chance to reflect on how they have grown or changed over the past year. However, I fear that in the development of this feature you neglected to think about its impact on one particular group of people -- those who have experienced significant loss in their lives.

Love, Loss and Wanderlust: How Losing My Father Made Me Rediscover My Love of Travel

Abbey Jorstad | Posted 06.08.2015 | Healthy Living
Abbey Jorstad

One of my father's greatest desires was always to travel and see the world, and yet he could never master his fear of the unknown. Many of the qualities that make travel one of the great loves of my life were the very things that filled him with dread. I find myself wondering if I travel so much as a direct rebellion against his own fears and worries?

I Want to Be Wild

Jenny Koppelman Hutt | Posted 06.08.2015 | Women
Jenny Koppelman Hutt

Grieving while raising kids and catering to a husband and every other obligation sucks. I would argue it makes the process take longer. Then again, I am not sure this process of grieving the loss of a mother ever ends.

Easter and Grief: An Inescapable Connection

Megan Devine | Posted 06.02.2015 | GPS for the Soul
Megan Devine

photo credit: Jarosław Pocztarski Even if you aren't a religious person or adhere to any particular faith, you can't really escape the whole Easter ...

Remembering My Mother on Her 75th Birthday

Beth Cone Kramer | Posted 06.01.2015 | Women
Beth Cone Kramer

The emptiness and loss never leave us, but in time, our memories soothe us. When life gets hard, I wish I could call my mom. Instead, I think of what she'd say.

Divorced Men: Booze and Women

Chris L. Burcher | Posted 05.27.2015 | Divorce
Chris L. Burcher

rather than seeking sex, I was seeking approval. Online dating is great for that. I wanted girls to find my profiles appealing and attractive. I wanted women to choose me from the vast array of other men.

Technology And Grief

Donna Mebane | Posted 05.20.2015 | Parents
Donna Mebane

ace to face, people didn't seem to know what to say. On Facebook, friends, family, friends of friends, even people we had never known shared their deepest feelings of loss and pain with Emma, on her page, in the same way they had shared their happiness - out loud, in writing, without a care who was reading over their shoulders.