You are not your negative or disempowered thoughts. They are temporary, if you want them to be. Your true state is one of possibility, joy, ease and purpose, so dig in and repeat that.
I love them to death. I am a proud father. I am honored that God gave them to me. I am overjoyed. I am in awe. I am in love. I am happy. But my kids do not MAKE me happy.
Mothers are the most important and most powerful people in the world related to solving our childhood obesity epidemic. The only way an obese child can change is if the home and family changes, and that will only happen when mom says it will.
The usual holiday reality is sparkling moments shining through quite a lot of disappointment, which is usually caused by the fact that we and those around us often fail in our duty to behave like Santa's perfect little elves.
I realized my pattern of staying with people who were emotionally destructive was a mirror to the pain inside my own head. I immediately put myself on a dating detox, along with a health and relationship cleanse. What I really needed was some tender love and self care.
The three greatest predictors of happiness are optimism (the belief your behavior will eventually matter), social connection, and how we perceive stress (as a challenge or as a threat). If we want to raise happiness we need to make both mindset and behavior shifts.
Every one of us can present a gift to the world. We all possess inherent interests and passions and can choose our respective thresholds for risk, exposure and adventure.
So many of us live in a constant state of reactivity and uneasiness, trying to control things that are far outside our control. But what if there could be an alternative? What if we could find peace and calm right now, even amidst all the chaos of life?
Sometimes the best thing to do when those around you are displaying frantic or negative energy is to get razor focused on something else. Anything else.
4. The "Strong Black Woman" does not exist. As far as I am concerned, being strong for the sake of being strong is for the birds. No black woman is made of brick and no black woman will always have it all together.
What does self-deception mean? As RadioLab's story suggests, self-deceivers are not only more successful, but often happier. Go figure.
I started eating foods that were pure, just like my heart wanted to be pure. Healing food became my medicine. As I ate for health, zest, energy, purity, and happiness, I found that not only was my soul healing, but my body was transforming as well.
Sometimes we wonder through our successes and triumphs -- for whom are we doing this for? And, I have one answer: You're doing it for you.
It's time to check in and make sure that you are still on the pathway heading towards your goal. And if you feel like you are on the sidelines, then maybe that's right where you need to be for now. When you are ready, though, put on your shoes, get up and take that first step.
Freedom and happiness appear when we realize that we are not -- fundamentally -- made of any of the hats that we wear.
In the same way that an airline attendant will tell passengers in pre-flight instructions to secure their own oxygen mask before assisting others, in life we need to learn how to feel compassion for ourselves first, before we can be happy or contribute to others' happiness.
I'm this idealistic kind of person. According to me, happiness comes from everyday life. It's a choice, it's a state of mind. It's learning how to enjoy little things in life.
The thing that neither the dictionary nor fake procrastinators understand is that for a real procrastinator, procrastination isn't optional -- it's something they don't know how to not do.
Finding lasting happiness seems to be like getting in shape physically. It may feel uncomfortable at first, but the more you do it the easier it becomes. You have to work your positivity muscles daily; if you do it, over time it will become much easier.
Let's face it, daily life can be beyond stressful. And between a demanding job and even more demanding home life, it becomes next to impossible to squeeze a bit of serenity into our everyday rounds. But what if being idle were just as productive -- and necessary -- as being super busy?