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Having It All

Why Our Choices Don't Matter as Much as We Think

Reem Kassis | Posted 06.29.2015 | Parents
Reem Kassis

I can't be sure, but I do know the grass always appears greener on the other side, even to children. So instead of judging each other, why don't we invite the person across the street for a cup of coffee onto our lawn?

Is 'Having It All' Only A Women's Issue?

Yetty Williams | Posted 05.26.2015 | Parents
Yetty Williams

When a man is at the top of his game or running a multi-million dollar company, you never consider for a moment how happy his marriage really is, how his children are being raised or how the home front is faring with the pressures of his job.

On Pregnancy and Gender Equality

Lindsay Tucker | Posted 05.13.2015 | Women
Lindsay Tucker

Last week, Boston Globe columnist Shirley Leung proposed that yes, women can, in fact, have it all. Just as soon as men get pregnant.

A Mom Is A Mom Is A Mom

Aimee Atkinson | Posted 05.11.2015 | Women
Aimee Atkinson

I was emailing when I should have been playing, and playing when I should have been emailing. I felt like I couldn't fully dedicate myself to either thing and therefore felt half as good an employee and a mom

How To Have It All

Aimee Chan | Posted 05.11.2015 | Parents
Aimee Chan

Career woman. Involved mother. Loving partner. Is it really possible to have it all -- and not have a nervous breakdown from the stress?

What's a Woman Worth? How I Discovered My Value

Kara Gorski, Ph.D. | Posted 06.30.2015 | Women
Kara Gorski, Ph.D.

Knowing your value means knowing what you value most. It's really about where you place your own worth -- not where others think you should place it -- and standing up for that, owning it -- and knowing its marketplace value, too.

I Give Up On Having It All

Claire McCarthy, M.D. | Posted 06.09.2015 | Parents
Claire McCarthy, M.D.

I've worked so hard, and I want it to add up to something, to lead to something. I want to be able to be proud of my accomplishments. That's not a bad thing. But accomplishments don't keep you company, bring you cocoa or laugh at your jokes.

Who The Hell Has It All, Anyway?

Janet Eve Josselyn | Posted 06.01.2015 | Fifty
Janet Eve Josselyn

Those of us with jobs, careers, relationships and kids worried that we didn't have enough time to spend with our kids and families. We worried about hurting our chances of a raise or promotion when we left work to watch our kid play "Hot Cross Buns" badly on the recorder.

Can Gay Men 'Have It All?'

Andrew Gelwicks | Posted 04.27.2015 | Gay Voices
Andrew Gelwicks

Although their looks and achievements are certainly of envy, it's clear that even four of the most attractive and successful undergraduate students take nothing for granted. If anything, holding the appearance of "having it all" propels them to work even harder to defy any notions that gays are weaker, or lesser, than heterosexuals.

How To Quiet The Mean Voice In Your Head

Katherine Wintsch | Posted 04.12.2015 | Parents
Katherine Wintsch

The mean voice in my head was making me so mentally and physically bone-tired and exhausted that I knew I needed to do something drastic. Since I couldn't escape the voice, I decided to expose it.

5 Confessions of a 'Type A' Working Mom, Wife and Day Dreamer

Traci Bild | Posted 04.04.2015 | Parents
Traci Bild

As a society, we are quick to judge -- not just others, but ourselves. While we teach our kids about bullying, we fail to admit we live with one in our head.

Men And Women Prefer Egalitarian Relationships -- If Policies Support Them

The Huffington Post | Rebecca Adams | Posted 01.23.2015 | Women

In his State of the Union address on Tuesday, President Obama came out in full support of paid family leave, an option that's currently unavailable fo...

On Becoming an Imperfectionist

Kristin Armstrong | Posted 04.15.2015 | Parents
Kristin Armstrong

I'm learning a lot in my pursuit of imperfection. French fries are a delicious addition to a meal. Red wine is a perfectly acceptable as a late night study companion. Plenty of reading can get done in carpool lines. Deadlines are more easily met when you have more deadlines.

Why I'll Never Have Kids in NYC

Eudie Pak | Posted 03.23.2015 | New York
Eudie Pak

For you fertile New York chicks who are kinda whatevs about children, I'd like to offer you the most inspiring and creative forms of birth control this concrete jungle has to offer.

Guilty Conscience: I Work, Therefore I'm A Neglectful Parent

Kelly Suellentrop | Posted 03.15.2015 | Parents
Kelly Suellentrop

"It's fine. You have to work... again. Maybe we'll snuggle tomorrow." My daughter said it in a way that let me know it most certainly was not fine. For 9, she sure has mastered how to lay on the guilt in a flawlessly passive-aggressive way.

The Elusive 'All'

Zehra Mehdi-Barlas | Posted 02.26.2015 | Women
Zehra Mehdi-Barlas

Fast forward to the present where women are now torn between having it, not having it, trying to have it or pretending to have it all. After all, nowadays if we are not leaning in and slow cooking at the same time, we definitely don't have it all, do we?

So, What Do You Do?

Molly Fosco | Posted 02.11.2015 | Healthy Living
Molly Fosco

Why do we start to hate our birthdays in our late 20s? The answer might seem obvious. We're not satisfied with we're careers, we still haven't found the love of our life, we haven't lost those few extra pounds we swore would be gone by now... But has it always been that way? Did our parents feel an impending sense of doom come their 27th birthday?

Dear Working Father

Reem Kassis | Posted 02.10.2015 | Parents
Reem Kassis

Your identity changed, your responsibilities increased, you were no longer the most important person to your partner and your needs and feelings took a back seat. You and your life were entirely changed, yet all this was overlooked.

Why You May Just Have To 'Settle' When Seeking A Relationship After 50

Joe Seldner | Posted 01.12.2015 | Fifty
Joe Seldner

When you are over 50, especially well over 50, time is perhaps your most precious asset. No one wants to squander it. It makes us older folks nervous to think about spending six months, a year, five years, in a relationship only to have it not work. What the hell do we do then?

It's OK to Want More

Kate Baer | Posted 01.11.2015 | Parents
Kate Baer

I don't know if it's living the life of a writer without a Xanax prescription or being a woman, but "wanting more" often feels greedy, or worse -- entitled.

6 Secrets to Staying Sane (and Maybe Even Mindful) for People Who Do Way Too Much

Rose Caiola | Posted 12.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Rose Caiola

Even with that barrage of opinions and advice, I think many people don't recognize one important thing -- how lessons learned and goals achieved in one business can lead to success in another, even if it's completely different.

8 Pieces Of Dating Advice For Middle-Aged Women (From A Man Who Knows)

Joe Seldner | Posted 12.23.2014 | Fifty
Joe Seldner

A little while ago, I offered unsolicited advice for men over 50 about dating. This came mostly from what women had told me about their dates. Though many of them had positive observations, a lot of what they had to say dealt with their male companions being self-centered, boring, arrogant, duplicitous, needy and/or unwilling to commit (sometimes, impossible as it sounds, at the same time).

Can You Really Have It All? The One Question to Ask Yourself Right Now

Katie Kempner | Posted 12.20.2014 | Women
Katie Kempner

The concept of whether women can have it all is a question that has been asked many times in many ways over the years. To me, this is having it all. Doing my job, being a mom and getting to see my family. Showing my daughter the value of hard work and having some fun together.

'Having it All' Even When Staying At Home

Reem Kassis | Posted 12.14.2014 | Women
Reem Kassis

Making this choice was one of the hardest things I had ever had to do. It was admitting that everything I had worked so hard for, everything I had aspired to achieve and prove, was neither what I had expected nor what I wanted. "Having it all" was not all it was pumped up to be.

The Secret to Finding Balance (While Having It All)

Matti Perilstein | Posted 11.29.2014 | College
Matti Perilstein

If you love your work to the point that it feels like play, that might be your balance. You will have to make sacrifices from time to time. You will feel days that you feel "off" but, if you know what balance is, you will be able to build a plan to get back to that point.