As our workshop leader handed each of us a selfie stick, she acknowledged that all of us have body parts we don't like, and that it can be scary to look at ourselves through a camera lens, but that she had found incredible power and sexual energy in taking photographs of the things she did like about her body. And she wanted us to have the same experience.
What I really learned is that the absolute most effective way to turn on my partner is to be confident and enthusiastic. Seriously, this woman was so INTO what she was doing and so INTO her partner that it would still would have been hot if she was slathering his cock with peanut butter while reading him the federal tax code.
Most couples simply stand by and allow the spark of their relationship to fizzle out in time, partly because they believe there's nothing to be done. But with the right actions and added awareness, both partners can rekindle the romantic fire so that it burns more strongly than even in the beginning.