It's very easy to fall into a "poor me, nobody loves me, I'm going to go eat worms" state of mind when you don't have any invitations for the holidays. Alternatively, you could choose to enjoy your holidays anyway. It's all in how you see it and who you hold accountable for the situation.
One year, several years ago, I asked my mom if I could bring my then-boyfriend home for Thanksgiving. "I think that would make me and your stepfather very uncomfortable," she said.
It's not that she didn't like my boyfriend. It's just that I'm happily married to someone else.
Because sometimes between Christmas card stresses and dinnertime messes, it's easy to forget we're celebrating some pretty big things. Like love, big hugs, and solid family time right when we need it most.
Deep down, we know that holidays are not just sugar and spice. Too often for many of us it is also about playing the role of caregiver, nurturer, exemplary host(ess), peacekeeper, logistical coordinator and cook.