How should we rank order the following in terms of their importance in how we want our government to behave: morally; legally, constitutionally, effectively? Of course, we want all these things, but when push comes to shove, as it does for an individual government worker in the CIA, a government agency, and a nation, what matters most?
If a businesswoman doesn't command this language, men think she doesn't "get it." If she does, people say she's not a "real" woman. To make matters even more complicated, what men say and how they strut, huff and puff may have very little to do with how they act in reality, away from the battlefield.