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Filter Less, Live More: 6 Social Media and Technology Rules to Live By

Alyssa Piperis | Posted 07.09.2015 | Media
Alyssa Piperis

What's funny about living in this day and age is that most of us seem to simultaneously be dependent on modern technology and be frustrated with how it's transformed areas of our lives that were already stressful enough without it -- i.e. dating, relationships, and confrontation.

Rhode Island Blames STD Spike On Hookup Apps Like Tinder

The Huffington Post | Erin Schumaker | Posted 05.26.2015 | Healthy Living

Sexually transmitted disease rates in Rhode Island rose sharply between 2013 and 2014, and the state's department of health is pointing to hookup apps...

Learning to Date: Romance and the Millennial Mind

Molly Sprayregen | Posted 05.03.2015 | Gay Voices
Molly Sprayregen

It wasn't that I didn't know how to date girls, it was that I didn't know how to date anybody. Before this year, I had been on three real dates, and all of them were with boys I had previously spent time with in group settings. I didn't know how to go on a first date.

Is Our Controversial Gay-App Infographic 'An Exercise in Fat Shaming' or an Accurate Reflection of Hookup Culture?

Mike Alvear | Posted 04.11.2015 | Gay Voices
Mike Alvear

We wanted to accurately portray how people behave online, not how we wish them to. Is reflecting (and ridiculing) how people truly behave online off-limits?

10 Annoying Chat Tactics to Avoid on Gay Apps

Adam Segel | Posted 03.22.2015 | Gay Voices
Adam Segel

Whether you're looking for a relationship, a new friend or a hot encounter, location-based social apps are a great way to go. But as we all know, apps can bring out some real basic behavior too.

Are You Using Tinder? Snap Out of It

Collette Gee | Posted 02.22.2015 | Women
Collette Gee

It takes more than a glance or an image to know whether we can connect with someone. However, with Tinder, or apps like Tinder, you miss the opportunity to truly connect with people because of the "appearance-based" snap judgments.

Letting You In: The Complexities of Post-coital Care as a Queer Person With a Disability

Andrew Morrison-Gurza | Posted 01.12.2015 | Gay Voices
Andrew Morrison-Gurza

By agreeing to help me with post-coital care and attempting to understand the realities of my disability, he was being more intimate with me than any one-night stand had ever been. And I was showing him my true self, my vulnerabilities and my realness. My disability and all that it encompasses were laid bare without apology or exception.

For a Safe Time, Call AVP!

Sharon Stapel | Posted 01.12.2015 | Gay Voices
Sharon Stapel

At AVP we're all for people meeting up and hooking up online. But as we see the trends in how people are interacting change, we are also shifting our work to help folks stay safe in all situations. And sometimes hooking up online isn't safe.

New App Cuddlr Connects Strangers For Purely Cuddling

The Huffington Post | Kerry Flynn | Posted 10.03.2014 | Technology

If you're interested in cuddling with a stranger, there's now an app for that. Think Tinder, but without any expectations for dating or something more...

There's A Dating App For Ivy League Types. Prepare To Cringe.

The Huffington Post | Avery Stone | Posted 09.11.2014 | College

Attention, singles fed up with the travails of Tinder: there's a new dating app apparently aimed at Ivy League students and graduates, because this wo...

Is The Ridiculous Way I Talk About Sex A Key To Fixing Our Country's Issues With Consent?

Ravishly | Posted 11.08.2014 | Women
Ravishly

The way most of us talk about sex is rather messed up if you take a step back and let it all marinate in your mind for a minute. We speak about sex like it's some consumptive act -- like we're getting frozen yogurt or something.

Performance Artist To Have Sex With A Different Man Every Day For A Year

The Huffington Post | Priscilla Frank | Posted 08.17.2014 | Arts

Mischa Badasyan is a 26-year-old gay man who sometimes feels lonely and unfulfilled from the sexual interactions initiated by hookup apps like Grindr ...

Online Foreplay and Bringing Sexy Back

Brandon Andrew Robinson | Posted 10.12.2014 | Gay Voices
Brandon Andrew Robinson

Online foreplay is a conversation that allows individuals to mutually share their fantasies and sexual wants. Users can erotically turn each other on while trying to express their desires and sexual practices. This online foreplay becomes a way to negotiate one's sex life.

BuzzFeed May Not Know How Many People You've Hooked Up With, But Do You?

Rachel Ryan | Posted 10.11.2014 | Women
Rachel Ryan

"Well, it's obviously not anywhere close to 653," said my friend, "but I'm honestly not sure. First of all, it depends -- how is BuzzFeed defining 'hookup'?" Ah, semantics. How do we, collectively, define one of the most pervasive terms of this generation?

Imagine If You Could Time Travel To Interrupt Your Last Hookup

The Huffington Post | Avery Stone | Posted 07.14.2014 | Comedy

What if you could travel back in time to your latest and greatest hookup -- and barge in to warn yourself about the upcoming pitfalls? This -- and...

Why Saying 'No' Shouldn't Make You the Villain

Emma Davis | Posted 08.17.2014 | Women
Emma Davis

Creating a culture of consent for both genders means acknowledging that "no" means all kinds of things. But, if you're hearing it from someone who identifies as female, it should never be taken as "Yes, I'm a prude, and my goal here is to ruin your fun."

Herpes Shows Up Like a Missionary

Matthew Terrell | Posted 08.11.2014 | Gay Voices
Matthew Terrell

Herpes shows up like a missionary -- completely unexpected and completely inconvenient. Like said missionary, herpes stops by to warn how dangerously you lead your life. But, really, you know Goddess sent them here to punish you.

Virgin Homicides: The Matrix of Elliot Rodger's Mass Murder in Santa Barbara

Roger Friedland | Posted 08.03.2014 | Crime
Roger Friedland

What's really going on behind closed doors in Isla Vista? Does Rodger's fantasy accord with reality? In 2012, I surveyed student's sex lives together with Paolo Gardinali of the university's survey research center. Some 1,500 students responded.

'The Casual Sex Project' Reveals The Truth About Hookup Culture

The Huffington Post | Nina Bahadur | Posted 06.02.2014 | Women

Whether it was a business trip one-night stand or a "bisexual bonobo" birthday party, Zhana Vrangalova wants to know all about your latest hookup. ...

What It's REALLY Like to Date in N.Y.C. Spoiler: It's Terrible

Teresa Lee | Posted 06.09.2014 | New York
Teresa Lee

He gets up to go to the bathroom....and never returns, and you never hear from him ever again. Guess he fell into the toilet bowl and drowned to death?

Rethinking Casual Sex

Omar Sarwar | Posted 05.20.2014 | Gay Voices
Omar Sarwar

There's no reason to feel ashamed about hooking up. But for the subset of young gay men who desire traditional long-term commitment, is our culture's emphasis on the pursuit of sexual novelty and variety in any way harmful?

Is the Price of Admission to the Game of Love Too High?

Susan Winter | Posted 05.19.2014 | Women
Susan Winter

Women have an internal tabulation system that balances the scales of "risk versus reward." Is this man worth the price? Are we willing to place our intimacy chip on the line and gamble its outcome? And if we lose, how do we recover the price we've paid with our heart?

To All Those Guys Out There

Hannah Berkman | Posted 05.13.2014 | Women
Hannah Berkman

You are but one amongst many roaming the streets, confusing women from LA to NY. The frat house, local bar and dorm hall are your playground. Oftentimes, you don't even know that what you're doing is wrong, but that doesn't make us feel any better. You're the Time Waster.

Racism Is So Gay

Omar Sarwar | Posted 05.12.2014 | Gay Voices
Omar Sarwar

It is unreasonable to expect people to become attracted to every kind of look, but it is still better to try and fail than to defend brazenly racist attitudes in the name of "preference."

Why I've Given Up on Hooking Up

Lester Brathwaite | Posted 05.07.2014 | Gay Voices
Lester Brathwaite

This exaltation of all things manly forces those of us who don't necessarily fit within those rigid gender constructs to make one of two choices: rebel or conform. I've tried both and I can say from experience -- it takes a real man to be a queen.