When you're experiencing challenges with your in-laws, step back and take a long view of the struggles. Most kids benefit from as much love as they can get, even if it doesn't look and feel exactly the same between the parents and the grandparents. Speak up when you need to... but step back and let go when you can.
Whose wedding is this anyway? Yours? Yes! Your financé's? Yes. But many others lay claim to the event.Your own parents may see it as their graduation party. Your grandparents may see it as the culmination of their life's work. Your siblings may want to make you queen for a day or share the limelight.
For many of us, the holiday season brings obligatory family time and interactions we'd rather avoid. Whether it's your mother-in-law sneaking cookies to your son after every meal or your father dishing out tough love to your daughter, our family members can do things we don't like -- and find difficult to manage.
Invite your SIL. Invite her and adjust your expectations. You know she will probably ignore you and your baby, so don't pay any attention to her. Let her stew in her own negativity while you focus on the positives, like your daughter and the other family and friends present to celebrate the special occasion.