I know that your ability to have a baby (or many babies) is not what keeps me from having one of my own. I also know you are confused about how to approach me -- afraid your abundant fertility will send me into a deep pit of despair. This isn't a me problem or a you problem; it's an us problem.
I have super supportive friends. In fact, I have super supportive friends who just happen to be supermodels. The super-est of them all is Cheryl Tiegs. Yes, THAT Cheryl Tiegs. The woman who is frequently described as the first American supermodel.
I had lunch recently with a new friend. In the midst of our 'getting to know you' questions, I asked if she had kids. She responded 'no.' The moment was uncomfortable. I felt awkward for asking. We moved on to another topic. This discomfort stayed with me.
Women with recurrences of chlamydia are at increased risk of potentially heartbreaking consequences, including pelvic inflammatory disease and infertility. Fortunately, doctors have a powerful strategy to prevent reinfection -- but we're not yet making the most of it.
am most certainly a different person than I was before I embarked on our infertility journey over 13 years ago.
I am afraid because it means having to do a lot of explaining about a subject that is emotionally difficult to talk about with others.
And let's remember: We can't always choose what happens to us. We don't always make the right choices. But we do have a choice in this present moment about how we respond to our past and make way for our future.
As long as infertility is only a women's disease, the burden of infertility is unequally distributed. As more men speak up about their challenges with trying to conceive, women and men will feel even more supported and encouraged. And less alone.
There will be a few challenges along the way, and here's a big one. You found your life's mate and you are ready to start a family. The only trouble is, because of your medical history, your body is incapable of holding a pregnancy to term.
A current petition to Whitehouse.gov asks for infertility treatments to be covered by the Affordable Care Act. The fact that it isn't already covered is concerning for a number of reasons.
We had an amazing gift, did we really want to jump onto that emotional roller coaster again? If not for those lightning strikes on Little Tree Lane all those years ago, I could very well have been a person who believed you beat the odds but once in a lifetime. But as it happens I was not.
A pregnancy involves conception and ultrasounds and birth plans and stretch marks. Adoption involves stacks of paperwork, no "due date" and many uncertainties. However, the end result is the same: parenthood.
If you know a mama expecting a rainbow baby, one of the most beautiful things you can do is sensitively validate her feelings, and empathetically follow her lead. I am so grateful to my family and friends who've done just this, and in doing so, have allowed me to celebrate the rainbow in my belly, honor the angel in my heart, and cherish the sweet child in my arms.
Are we perpetuating and reinforcing society's ideas around infertility? Are we asking to be visible when at the same time we are invisible to one another?
Infertility, for me, has been reabsorbed and accepted. But it took a long, largely invisible, time. I am a different woman for it.
While I'm a huge advocate of millions of women sharing their infertility stories... I strongly believe your Mother's Day misery does not need more company. Save the commiserating for a day that's not all about celebrating moms. But this Sunday? Let's find some cool ways not to be hot and bothered.