There are a lot of articles on what not to say to the fertility challenged. The soundest advice is to avoid sharing your advice. But we humans have a tough time keeping in our opinions. So the advice will come. And when it does, here's what we can do about it.
I feel like I spent a year at Reproductive Burning Man: with masses of people, piles of drugs, and anticipation of a final, cathartic event.
If you are thinking about fertility preservation and whether it is right for you, you are already way ahead of the game. Knowledge is power, and understanding your body and fertility potential is critical in making educated choices for your future.
Choose to be mindful, conscious and attentive about one of your life's most important decisions. Tune in to both sides of your inner dialogue. Bust through the beliefs based on distortion, fear and limitation. Clarity will emerge... just stick with it.
So why don't more celebrities share their infertility experiences? Given that as many as one in six couples have trouble conceiving, there must be more stars out there struggling like we are, right?
I remind myself that my job is to protect our love. I must steady her drop into hopelessness. I hold her as she sobs, saving the pep talk for another day. I tell her that we can remain in the ache of this disaster for however long it takes.
At conception and in the months before birth, we make parental choices before we meet our child or children. The best we can do is to make educated decisions based on science, faith and what we feel is right.
No one knows much about infertility when they begin down the road of trying to conceive, unless they happen to be a doctor, a nurse, or one of those people who reads everything. So ask. Ask your "team" -- OB, fertility doctor, acupuncturist, etc.
The relationship I have with my body is a direct expression of the relationship I have with myself. I can't wear exhaustion like a badge of courage anymore.
Babies are born from the womb. Maternity is born from the soul. There are many ways to "mother" a child. Aunthood is as close as it gets.
Endometriosis, as far as I knew, was something older women may experience. Statistics and facts about "female issues" are not always openly discussed in the same way as other medical conditions.
On the left, you will see "Check out my eight-pack, you think I'm healthy and fit, but I am infertile and my bones are weak" Kate. On the right, you will see "Check out my boobs, I look healthy and feminine and my internal state reflects this" Kate.
When you are in optimal health -- mentally, emotionally, nutritionally and physically -- abundant health, vitality and joy can be yours. Plain and simple, my message is all about balance and prioritizing YOU.
I watched my entire book group and two sets of friends get pregnant before I ever watched my belly swell.
If someone on Twitter thinks gays should not have the right to marry, my 140 retort back isn't going to change their minds. I've never heard anyone ever say, "Someone posted a .jpeg on Facebook and now I'm a liberal!"
I wished to see my husband become the amazing father I know he would be. I wished to watch him with you, to see him reflected in you. I wished to see you grow, to see you become you. I wished for all the good, the bad and the ugly that comes with becoming a parent.