As crazy as it may sound, I actually want to be pregnant. If the only thing I was missing was one good egg... then I needed to start looking outside the box (pun intended). And as I was about to discover, good eggs are actually not that hard to find... if you know where to look.
Three years of failed fertility treatments makes you re-think a few things. If I used a donor egg, would I love that child any less? If I carry that baby for nine months, can anyone tell me it's not mine? Do I think my kid is going to care that mommy needed a little help to bring him or her into the world?
Several friends asked me if I am worried about getting fat. No, actually, I am more terrified about what will happen to my lady bits during and after birth. Thanks, Grandma.
I hold your hand if you are a mother who can no longer see, touch or hold your child in your arms. I walk with you. In silence. I walk with you in respect. And I find a way to travel the depths of sorrow you have to live with every single day. Especially on Mother's Day.
I have an impossible wish this Mother's Day. I wish the holiday could somehow honor a group of women to which I once belonged, and for whom the day is particularly difficult.
I had just decided the word for my 36th year would be "love." And that evening, my heart was captured by a young woman named...Lovelle.
Pregnancy is a polarizing topic in my estimation. I say that because I'm one of the folks out there who would love to be a father. My firstborn child would've been due this month.
In terms of having all of the time in the world, please think of me as the "Ghost of Infertility Future." I'm wearing a dark cloak pointing at your age.
This is the week that I was supposed to give birth to my first child and celebrate my first Mother's Day as a mom.
About three years ago I went public with a very personal battle. At the time, I had just turned 42. I had a great, big life... but I didn't have a little one in it. I had always wanted to have a baby.
I know you worked really hard on that homily about Mother's Day/Father's Day. It's a time of joy and appreciation and community for almost everyone you address. You may not know this, but there are likely other outliers receiving your message.
With Mother's Day right around the corner, now is perfect time for us to reflect on why they are so special. After speaking with four moms who all share a vision for supporting moms-to-be, it was easy to see that there was something heroic about all of them.
Sometime during that first week of the new year, as I thought very deeply about my grandmother's influence on my life, knowing her light was fading, I began to feel sick and very, very tired.
Having infertility can feel embarrassing and isolating, but you can help your friends feel less misunderstood and alone by resolving to know more about infertility this week, April 20-26, during National Infertility Awareness Week.
One in 8 couples struggle to have children and build their families due to the disease of infertility. This statistic represents a colleague, a friend in your book club, a couple at your Thanksgiving dinner table.
Did you know that 1 in 8 couples struggle to have children and build their families due to the disease of infertility? This statistic represents a colleague, a friend in your book club, a couple at your Thanksgiving dinner table.