There will be a few challenges along the way, and here's a big one. You found your life's mate and you are ready to start a family. The only trouble is, because of your medical history, your body is incapable of holding a pregnancy to term.
A current petition to Whitehouse.gov asks for infertility treatments to be covered by the Affordable Care Act. The fact that it isn't already covered is concerning for a number of reasons.
We had an amazing gift, did we really want to jump onto that emotional roller coaster again? If not for those lightning strikes on Little Tree Lane all those years ago, I could very well have been a person who believed you beat the odds but once in a lifetime. But as it happens I was not.
A pregnancy involves conception and ultrasounds and birth plans and stretch marks. Adoption involves stacks of paperwork, no "due date" and many uncertainties. However, the end result is the same: parenthood.
If you know a mama expecting a rainbow baby, one of the most beautiful things you can do is sensitively validate her feelings, and empathetically follow her lead. I am so grateful to my family and friends who've done just this, and in doing so, have allowed me to celebrate the rainbow in my belly, honor the angel in my heart, and cherish the sweet child in my arms.
Are we perpetuating and reinforcing society's ideas around infertility? Are we asking to be visible when at the same time we are invisible to one another?
Infertility, for me, has been reabsorbed and accepted. But it took a long, largely invisible, time. I am a different woman for it.
While I'm a huge advocate of millions of women sharing their infertility stories... I strongly believe your Mother's Day misery does not need more company. Save the commiserating for a day that's not all about celebrating moms. But this Sunday? Let's find some cool ways not to be hot and bothered.
Despite the crushing pain of the experience, I still have hope. Recently, I was walking with our puppy in the backyard of our house, and I felt for the first time in as long as I can remember, a feeling of contentedness and well-being wash over me. It only lasted a few seconds, but it was glorious. I plan to try to find that place again and work on staying there for longer periods of time.
I want you to know you will have many friends who will be praying for you and thinking of you specifically on this day.
To ask friends "What does it feel like to have a baby inside of you?" "Does birth hurt?" "What is it like to breastfeed?" makes me realize that I'm no longer the master of anything. I am the student. They have surpassed me.
Women like me face Mother's Day with shades of shame, despair and silence. So, I would like to take this opportunity to speak up and share with those who know someone who has infertility or are experiencing it themselves. Here is what I wish someone had told me about about the disease.
The week leading up to Mother's Day is always painful for a woman who wants nothing more than to know the joy that she sees many of the friends in her peer group sharing on their Facebook news feeds.
She is out there for all the world to love and judge. She has been born for all the world to embrace or reject. She is shining bright, whether or no...
This year, I invite you to join me in thinking more broadly about mothering, and in passing along these Mother's Day sentiments.
The most important thing is to support each other and go through this as a team, which will keep you close and connected. That appears to be what Kim and Kanye are doing.