I want you to know you will have many friends who will be praying for you and thinking of you specifically on this day.
To ask friends "What does it feel like to have a baby inside of you?" "Does birth hurt?" "What is it like to breastfeed?" makes me realize that I'm no longer the master of anything. I am the student. They have surpassed me.
Women like me face Mother's Day with shades of shame, despair and silence. So, I would like to take this opportunity to speak up and share with those who know someone who has infertility or are experiencing it themselves. Here is what I wish someone had told me about about the disease.
The week leading up to Mother's Day is always painful for a woman who wants nothing more than to know the joy that she sees many of the friends in her peer group sharing on their Facebook news feeds.
She is out there for all the world to love and judge. She has been born for all the world to embrace or reject. She is shining bright, whether or no...
This year, I invite you to join me in thinking more broadly about mothering, and in passing along these Mother's Day sentiments.
The most important thing is to support each other and go through this as a team, which will keep you close and connected. That appears to be what Kim and Kanye are doing.
This life can be unkind, but together, we can make it a little safer place for the hurting mothers on this Mother's Day. If you have a hurting mother in your life -- whether they be a friend or family, make this day a little easier to bear for them. Remember them. Acknowledge them.
They are walking, talking, attitude-filled little human beings who still need us, but each year just a little bit less. I'm happy to know them and to have had the experience of carrying them, loving them and raising them... but sometimes, my heart still hurts.
Just maybe my story will reach the person who needs it most in that moment and they will know they are not alone.
During the infertility process, men don't know their role and feel they don't know how to participate. It's a very odd and surreal experience.
Last week, I had the pleasure of speaking with Tomiko Fraser Hines, the first African American face of Maybelline, self-proclaimed "infertility overcomer," and RESOLVE ambassador. Seven years ago, Hines was diagnosed with infertility due to premature ovarian failure, an autoimmune disorder.
This time, for example, the Royal baby buzz doesn't seem to be as fevered as it was the first time round, or maybe it is just where I am. I have gotten to the phase of my recovery where seeing babies no longer breaks my heart.
I want you to know that you are not alone. There's millions of us going through similar situations. None of us have the exact same circumstances but we can all relate and we all understand.
The sight of pregnant women and small children was too much for me; I left their presence in tears. But it was when my mother refused to allow me to visit because she "needed to build a relationship with the one who could still give her grandchildren" that I felt truly broken.
The good news is that couples struggling with infertility now have more options than ever before. While we have much left to do, research is steadily leading to a greater understanding of infertility's causes and risk factors, better technologies, and more personalized treatments.